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Originally Posted by KatzPajamas
djplong~ Here's a scenario for you...You are a single lady who has been told that she will never be able to conceive. You have known your fiance for 5 years when you find out that you are indeed pregnant. Happily you inform the fiance that the impossible has now become possible. He sternly informs you that he doesn't want children and begins to write the check to "take care" of this...ie, get the abortion. After you refuse, he walks out of your life. You have no parents left in your life to assist you, and it is in an era where unwed pregnancies are not the norm yet. Yet some raw, primal, instinct deep inside of you (and inside every woman) KNOWS beyond a shadow of a doubt that the person inside of you, is JUST THAT-A PERSON!!! So....you pick yourself up by the boot straps as you were raised to do, you carry this innocent life to completion. You struggle to make ends meet and give this child the best life has to offer. She grows up to be a beautiful, intelligent woman with 5 children of her own-to whom she is a wonderful mother. You do all of this because it is the right thing to do, because we are civilized humans not barbarians, because greater love has no man than to lay down his life for another...
I am that woman, so don't give us that selfish "life was tough at that moment" garbage. We can accomplish great feats of love, when we CHOOSE to. It ain't always easy, but it is ALWAYS worth it!
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1) Katz, you said it was a scenario for me.. I'll get to that.
2) You then said you were that woman. So should I make the assumption that you want to know what I would have done in your position? Or are you simply expressing your experiences since you DID undergo those circumstances?
If you're asking me, I can *honestly* say that I don't quite know what *I* would do. I'd have some long hard thinking to do. The only part I'm deliberately ignoring is where you say about this being at a point in time where unwed pregnancies weren't as accepted. It's hard enough to respond to the here and now without adding time travel to the mix.
You said you went through this. You also said it was always worth it.
For you, I have no doubt that this is true.
Take a look at any abused kid who's mother wishes they'd never been born and you understand there are no absolutes like that.
I could have been aborted. My birth mother got pregnant without knowing it, dumped her fiancee when she discovered he was married to someone else and then enlisted in the Marines. Mind you, this was 1962! Towards the end of basic training, they discovered her pregnancy and she was given a medical discharge. She told me that, from the instant they'd told her, she knew she was going to give me up for adoption.
The only reason I'm telling you all this is to let you know where my history is on this - and the fact that I have very personal experiences in this area.
There are no one-size-fits-all answers. I can't stand abortion. Never liked it and never will. There are times it's a necessary evil. There are also times that it's abused out of 'convenience' - no argument there.
But until we prevent unwanted pregnancies in the first place, abortion is going to be in the public debate.
...and as a side note, we have Santorum who's not just against public funding of contraception but against contraception PERIOD!
I've said it before and I'll say it again. Abortion is the symptom, not the disease.