What I mean is this - and I'll give examples..

What is the "unnatural act"?

Is it the homosexual sex act? Well, that has nothing to do with marriage.

Is it a man falling in love with another man? I certainly didn't have control over which women I fell in love with. That's just my orientation.

Is it not being able to have children "naturally"?

There are people who want to deny marriage to gays because of the term I've heard - the "unnatural act". But every definition I've ever heard of "unnatural act" just doesn't hold water.

Marriage isn't about sex. It's about love. It isn't about "tradition" because we've changed that tradition DRASTICALLY over the years. We as a society have "evolved" marriage into something better and better (ok, that's MY opinion - but would we be doing that if it wasn't what people wanted?) as time went on.

People confronted me on the issue before I changed my mind. WHY didn't I think gay marriage was ok? Well, the only thing I could come up with is the "yuck" factor. Once I saw that, I realized it was no reason for denying someone the right to get married. It would be like me saying to someone who's unattractive "You have no right to get married because I find you ugly".

I'm trying to drill down into the "why" of it all.