My story is on page 1 of this thread. Like many here have moved around the country. At each new office I had the most attractive women hitting on me (not bragging here). I made certain that I did not hurt anyone's feelings because of office politics. My focus was on my career and being the celebrated don juan was a buzzkill My belief in being celibate before marriage and faithful following was not born out of religion, morality, etc but simply based on "a promise" and the fact that respect is paramount. Respect is very very fragile and so when someone says " will you respect me in the morning" the answer is verbally always is going to be "yes". However relisticallythe questions of doubts remain just below the surface ready to strike. I sum up my marriage as saying the three most important people in my life are my wife, my son and my daughter...than me
As to this physical attraction/chemistry
we knew it when we met in high school continued before we were married and after. And when the proper time came to consummate neither of us had any trouble figuring out what to do.
We are not one of these couples who has ever said it was good for me was it good for you. We viewed it as an extension of our love and hence it was always good. Pretty simple huh?
The shades of Grey type authors gotten think this guy is soooo one dimensional but the fact is you can't stay married 50 years and be with the same person 55 years without having some type of draw.
Finaly let me say with all the sincereity I can muster that I feel so badly for these young people that cannot keep separate pure love and sex. Because pure love is not conditional anything less than that is not love and much of it is lust
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