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Originally Posted by hotrodgirl
You know, I would ALWAYS offer to help a neighbor in need. Pick up mail, fix a meal, run an errand. I am certain in every small neighborhood thetre are those willing to do what humankind does, and that is aid those who need a bit of help. You (Sr Citizen) speak of aging, but my mother was working and driving until she was 90. She was a pro-am golfer, active in her community, active in church, a musician, and generally busy and happy person. Unfortunately I lost her at almost 95 to pneumonia and other complications and she was indeed in nursing care the last few months. But she had a propensity for life and sometimes I think we can control or destiny to a certain point. I intend to be a forward thinking, active and busy senior at TV and fully expect a good life barring any unforeseen medical problems that may occur. We all age, but we needn't give up our quality of life! My 2 cents....
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"Unforseen" is always possible.......and does occur.....sorry for your loss.
Losing one's mom is very difficult, to say the least.
Aging is a fact of life. Visit a skilled nursing facility as we did every day for 18 months at the end of my own 91 year old mom's long journey with Alzheimers. Like your mom, she was also super active; in great shape as told to me by our neighbor, friend and her internist.......that she had the heart, lungs, bones, etc., etc. of a much younger person........illness free except for the "brain"........at the end. I still remember when her doctor called me with that "news"; I recall exactly where I was sitting when the phone rang........she had been taken to the hospital when she became "dizzy" momentarily from the new drug Aricept that her other doctor, a gerontologist (?) had prescribed for her.....as a test.....so they did some brain scans, etc.etc., etc............the doc said that for her age, all of her organs, etc. were that of a much younger woman.
Alzheimers is for sure "The Long Goodbye". She lived with us for six years until I could not bathe her anymore............and if you want to see aging up close and personal, visit a nursing home. Not assisted living........but the Alzheimer's wing.
Many of our elderly friends and neighbors were all there at the same time as my mom.........many of my friend's parents as well.......the end of an era...........no, they didn't play tennis and golf, but they were active in their community and church, etc........and PHYSICALLY HEALTHY and very mobile until the dementia hit........so one really never knows, does one?
Everyone ages. We don't have our heads in the sand as we've seen it up close and personal............it kind of just sneaks up on one.
Some things that one never imagined would happen, do happen.
My mom was always "young at heart" as well as in great shape physically. Who would have figured she'd end up that way?
She had never had a single surgery in her 91 years, never broken a bone; had all her original "parts"..........and had never been on prescription meds until the Aricept, which didn't help at all......just made her light headed. He took her off of it. Dizziness can cause falls and broken bones.
Again, we saw all of our peers / friends / neighbors' parents take the same trip..........I "inherited" my mom when I was 49........she moved in with us for 6 years.....then assisted living for 2 years, followed by skilled nursing care facility for 18 months.........it truly is the "long goodbye".
My mom was one of the most positive thinking ladies I knew.
I'm sure she never thought she'd end up that way. It's very sad, to say the least.