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Originally Posted by Schaumburger
Just from a wannabee's perspective...this woman may not be giving TV a fair shot. If all she does is stay at home all day and night without trying to get involved in something -- club, class, volunteer project, golf lessons, pickleball, etc. I believe some people "choose" to be unhappy. I hope she finds some happiness here. Just my 2 cents.
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The two times we resided in Florida........1972 for one full year and then in 1994 for FOUR MONTHS........before returning north.....we were never choosing to be "unhappy".
We had a 2 year old and a 5 year old the first time around.
We just missed the "four seasons" and the beauty of those 4 seasons.
Now, truthfully, we couldn't care in the least if winter never arrived.
In 1973 we returned and bought our third home, on the same street as our second home, same neighborhood, same neighbors and settled in for the next 25 years until our kids graduated university and married, went off on their own, etc.
At that time, now 1994, still in our late 40's, we decided we wanted a condo on the beach..........sold the big sprawling home with inground pool, etc.......and headed for Florida once again.
By the way, we vacationed in Florida every single year of our marriage and knew both coasts........but only interior Disney World as far as central Florida was concerned.
Well, again, we "did not choose to be unhappy". My mom's third husband had passed away and we had to close down two homes to bring her along with us.........discovering that she was in the early stages of Alzheimers Disease.........very confused. Long story short, we decided to sell the condo on the beach (totally remodeled beautifully by us) and return to ours and her "support system" in Vermont...........it was the right decision for the past twenty years............
A minor part of that decision (besides the Alzheimers) was the rigid rules of condo living............the "organization" or whatever it is called, were extremely elderly and extremely rigid ; not allowing washers and dryers in the units, etc...........among other things. There was NO pest control.
Nuff said. The condo and the location was gorgeous.....but we were SO VERY HAPPY to return to our little town where everyone knew everyone and no one had show I.D. or sign a contract for work done in your own home........too much red tape in Florida.........
We had just flown back and were driving up to our new house (same old neighborhood which draws us back like a magnet).........when the Town Clerk, our neighbor of long standing, stopped and said, "DO YOU WANT ME TO PUT YOU THREE BACK ON OUR VOTING REGISTRY?" We said, "Sure". No I.D. to show, no papers to sign..........just our word and a handshake is all that's needed up here. It is a different world.
Although everything ended up well and we did make a profit on the beachfront condo.......we found out that the "carpenters" for the kitchen remodel had some type of lein on their business...........not sure if I spelled lein right or if that is the right word.........but it affected our sale...........they were recommended by the kitchen cabinet store.
Luckily, our bathroom guys, etc. all were A o.k..........as were the tile guys, the painters and the carpeting guys...........
We also had been "misled" by the realtor who wore a surgical mask.
How dumb can I be? He never disclosed that the area was known for the red tide bacteria..........we soon found ourselves coughing all the time, including my elderly mom............hubby had serious pneumonia like symptoms......as did I later, after the fact, just from walking on the beach or sitting on one of our two balconies.
It felt like we were strangling. We are not hypochondriacs. Never need to visit a doctor. Once we left the area, it cleared up. I did my research.
Red tide has been there forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's in the air....causes bronchial problems, etc.
Just my two cents. We are happy folks by nature.
No one chooses to be unhappy.
Sometimes life just happens........
We are in the stage now where the heat feels better than the cold.
The Villages has everything we would want in a new place......
We might rent for awhile and keep our northern home rather than go through our past experiences again..........it does seem like a lot of folks rent through the winter seasons...........it's cheaper in the long run than buying and selling and buying and selling..............
I actually know of no one who chooses to be unhappy. Life circumstances can interfere with the best of plans, however......
As far as other posters who do not like grandchildren visiting????
I haven't understood that............unless they are very impolite, unruly kids.
Family is everything..........we are proud of ours, having been married almost 50 years.........