[lightworker888]

Schaumburger, I too believe that "happiness is a choice". However my understanding of this is that we choose to make the best of a situation and focus on the pro's. However if the location is making it difficult to be happy in, then it may become necessary to change the location. I love TV and think it offers more than anyone could ask for in one location. That being said, I am sure that there are many people who do not get pleasure from participating in any of the activities and would be happier on their own in a smaller community or closer to their family on a daily basis, or many other reasons that I can't even fathom. So choosing to be happy becomes that much more difficult. Perhaps if she could be happy for her husband that might work for a while, but in the long run, happiness has to come from within and although there are some women who enjoy pleasing their husbands as a source of their pleasure, if she is home alone for the most part, it is easy to understand why she is unhappy. In truth, there are probably many more factors involved in why someone is unhappy, but I just wanted to note that we can always "choose" happiness, but TV isn't the easiest place for everyone to be able to choose it, if that makes any sense.

BTW there is a good book called "Happiness in a Choice" by Barry Kaufman that speaks to this topic. It was written 20+ years ago but is still relevant today. We took a couples workshop with him back then and it was very impactful. Really helped to identify the beliefs that are keeping us stuck in emotional places that no longer serve us. Still use some of the ideas that we learned.

Glad that you are making the choice to live with that understanding. To me it makes the most sense and it sure makes life fun and joyful. Have you seen the Laughing Yoga group? I want to attend when we get back down. I missed the meeting as we were leaving when I saw it in the REC News.

I'm currently reading a book by Neale Donald Walsh called "Happier than God" (2008) and it is a really good read. He wrote the series "Conversations with God" which were very cutting edge for the general public back then. Did a few workshops with him and found him to be really down to earth, light hearted, and practical so I enjoy his writing as it doesn't feel like a burden to plough through, yet very thought provoking. It is all about choice, and choice making. So I've come full circle in this longwinded post!

LW888