Wow. That is a difficult situation. Assuming your mom is still capable of rational decision making, all you can do is present your rationale for her remaining in FL vs. going back north. Does she have friends/acquaintances here? Does she have friends back north? Does she have confidence/comfort with her health care practitioners here? Up north? Is she able to enjoy the outdoors here? Year round here vs. ? up north. Will she get more regular contact with family members here vs. up north? Will she get more time out of the facility here vs. there? Will the girls adjust their lifestyles to accommodate mom since they have not had her around for the last two years?
This is the time for mom to be more concerned about what is best for her and not for her kids. For some parents, it's difficult to think that way, but the kids will adapt. There is Skype, Facetime, etc. to enable "visits" without the travel.
Whatever the decision, it sounds like you have done your best for your mom.
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