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Originally Posted by pooh
It can be selfish indeed, however, it can be considered selfish in the other direction, too. One trying to do what is considered a way to potentially prolong life, or one allowing another to live in a fashion that makes that individual happy.
Sometimes we just have to accept others the way they are.
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Yes, as I've tried to say in the past........no one can truly change their spouses habits........whether it's being a chain smoker for 50 years or enjoying key lime pie and cookies for dessert.......mine would certainly rather have the potato chips than a baked potato (which is what I would choose)........
I'm thinking that a single man, never been married,never had children, never had inlaws to invite over for family gatherings (and they are all different in their tastes and beliefs)........would not understand what the wives of our generation has been through these past several decades.
Years ago, people enjoyed feasting on holidays. Now , many are choosy about what they consume, due to dietary restrictions or medical health issues........which I "get".
However, it is hard on the preparer of food, the shopper of groceries , to oblige everyone...........if I put out al raw veggies and cooked veggies , all of which I love.........the meat eaters would not be happy. Our adult children have friends who are vegans.........I prepare food for them. I also prepare for everyone else.......it's like running a restaurant these days.
Can't go wrong with a big fresh shrimp platter with cocktail sauce and lemon wedges........for most folks.........and lots of crudites for the vegans...........good thing I'm half Italian and like to cook in volume and can prepare many varieties of food........something for everyone...including gooey desserts. Never seen a man pass that up.
Wives usually oblige the husband's tastes........or end up in divorce court. I know quite a few of those who wouldn't ALLOW their husbands to watch television.
It doesn't pay to wage battle over every little morsel they consume. No one can force an adult male (or woman) to change their eating habits........they can suggest, they can mention what they've read, etc...........but ultimately, it's up to the individual.
I don't think a single man who has never had children can understand this logic. I'm sure the women know exactly what I'm saying.
This is why, as we get older........it's much easier to GO OUT AND EAT.
Our guests can then choose what they want from the menu. But often we still have to host big gatherings when the kids all return home with the grandchildren and everyone wants to see them...........this is when I feel like I'm cooking for an army............of varying tastes and I do try to oblige those with different choices of food.
Nothing in this life is black or white. One person's perspective is only from where that person is coming from..........it doesn't necessarily jive with how the rest of us live or have lived.
WE all know what is healthy vs. what is NOT healthy.
But living the life of a rigid vegan is not always easy when other mainstream folks are included.....or lived with.