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Originally Posted by teritat
Those of us that are in our late 50's don't have as much in common with those in their 70's/80's...just the way it is. Not saying that those in 70's/80's aren't trying to do some of the same activities as the 50's...but the attitudes/style of life/outlook on life will probably be different. We lived in one village for 4 years and then move to Ferdindina hoping to find the younger aged retiree but it is a mix bag in new village also. So, to answer your question - not one specific area is calling to the younger retiree over the older retiree.
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This forum is read by a very wide age span of real people. I know and enjoy here in The Villages friendships with many people who range from a girl of 52, one of my dearest friends to a girl of 89, one of my dearest friends. The 89 year old is in my Friday golf group, the 52 year old is in my Tuesday golf group. Most days the 89 year old could beat the 52 year old...but that isn't the point.
I have met closed minded and insensitive people of every age. I have met ageless people. I have met people who I was shocked to find they were much older than I had first thought and some who I found it hard to believe were much younger.
I have met younger people who were all up tight and rigid and never saw the humor in anything, and I have met older people just like them.
I have met younger people who could not participate in sports but still enjoy the art classes I attend. One of my younger friends, in her mid fifties has had both knees replaced and is now able to play tennis again. Another friend in her 70's hasn't had any replacements and plays tennis just as much.
I have met people who remind me of my old aunt in every annoying way. I have met people who I remind of their old aunt in every annoying way.
When you say out loud that you are seeking friends of your own age that is fine, it is HOW you say it, that sometimes is hurtful and shows an interior selfishness and lack of sensitivity.
My goal in decorating my home has always been, to be so up on trends and what is happening in decor that if someone broke in to rob me they would assume I was in my twenties and just graduated from design school.
My goal in living is to have learned enough from life experiences to not to miss anything and try NOT to hurt anyone.
I don't have parties where everyone leaves drunk, but I used to.
I don't take ballet barre, don't run five miles every day but I used to.
I now can paint portraits of people that I could not do four years ago and I am still learning. I don't care if my friends don't paint portraits of people if they don't care I can't extend into a good arabesque anymore or don't want to play pickleball or gamble. I didn't want to play pickleball or gamble twenty years ago.
I think the reason that I don't stay up late may be partly to do with age and partly to do with early tee times, lunch afterwards, followed by an art class, working in the yard and a walk around the neighborhood and a swim and then out to dinner with friends and gatherings after dinner on our front porch.
No one ever should have to feel bad here in this community for being older. This is the last place I would expect to find age prejudice.
If we have it, we need to lose it, because we are missing out on a lot of fun.