My main point is that we do not know what the circumstances of this young man's life are so maybe there are issues that make it is a struggle to do what we all dream our children will do. I do have three children of my own, 29,28 and 26, all university educated, my 29 year old son just bought a house in Toronto which is the same value as our home in Seattle, with his wife; my 26 year daughter old bought a house in Seattle when she was 24 years old. They all have jobs. They all, thank G-d, are strong, young, independent people with careers. My husband has two sons who are a sophmore and senior at universities in Washington State, 19 and 21 years old, bright and forward children. However, in a heartbeat, if there was a need, an issue, a problem, a glitch in the road of life, our door is open, a safe place awaits them, and support is there to adress whatever is the issue and then move forward again. Do any of them long to live with us? No. Do any of them dream of moving to The Villages to enjoy pickleball and dancing in the town square? No. Would they have trust and faith that if they needed shelter and support for a period of time, there is a room available and a loving family to help them on their journey? Yes. So to me I see these parents doing the same thing not knowing what particular need their child has. I do not judge or make assumptions, because anyone's child's life can change in an instant and so you do what you need to do to help them through the transition. We are all so proud of our children who do so many wonderful things, and better yet, do it with their own self will, independence, money, and do it successfully. I know I am. But let's be supportive of parents who are supportive of their children when it is needed and remember you do not know what goes on behind closed doors and what path parents have walked with their children. We all want our kids to fly but sometimes an injured wing has to heal before that is possible.
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