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Originally Posted by mrsyarbie
My 27 year old loves it here , to visit but not to live. Would not advise it for someone that young and just starting out in life ...
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I agree with you.
Our 40 year old and 28 year old spouse loved it; he said he could actually envision himself at "retirement" living in TV. That would be age 55....as he said "in 15 years". Will never happen with two babies now and more anticipated soon........the math just doesn't work.
I cannot even, in my wildest dreams, imagine our son living in THE VILLAGES at age 20 when he was still at the university or at age 22 upon graduation when he relocated out west to Colorado.
He moved to a university town, got a job, went back for his M.B.A. and built a huge network of friends whom he met through not only work and school, but via the cycling, hiking, rock climbing, kayacking, volunteer work with various large organizations, being a mentor to inner city "down on their luck" kids, participating in marathons in Moab Utah, bike races, etc. and on and on, plus traveling the world (meaning third world countries.......) , being involved in local "p" which I can't say, and so on.
His circle of friends , gals and guys, would do "out of bounds" skiing to the cabins built by the 10th Mountain Division of the U.S. Army after World War II.......and still maintained today.......he took avalanche training.......he scuba dived off Mexico and got his license......in other words, he "grew" in so many ways HE COULD NOT HAVE GROWN LIVING WITH HIS DAD AND MYSELF IN OUR HOME.
Yes I worried when he was in all those third world countries but again, he "grew" and saw how the rest of the world lived.
He also spent Christmas holidays in places like New Zealand and Australia, Japan, etc. Coming from a very small , insulated, town, who would have thought?
He visited all the national parks out west, hiked in the Grand Canyon, you name it, they all did it.......healthy "fit" choices are what his friends made in life.
For those of you telling this person about where he could DRINK?????
They'll find that place on their own if they choose. Drinking is not a highlight of life.......not as far as I'm concerned anyway.
There's actually a lot more to life than eating at Applebee's and dancing at a bar.
He and several friends went to Cambodia to find a little girl on a "raft school" run by the R.C. diocese......to give her a large donation of money for her education, collected in Denver........they assumed they were going to a brick and mortar school and it ended up being a "raft" on a river.
He backpacked all over Asia........hiked in Peru to Macchu Picchu.....too many places to name here. He overnighted with more "raft people" in Peru........really rugged type travel.
All of his boyhood friends had "adventures" in their early 20's and mid to late 20's..........not just dancing and drinking. Nuff said.
I do not see that kind of a well rounded life for a young man in THE VILLAGES. Fine for his parents, yes, of course.
If he has health issues, that is a totally other story and not what I am commenting on.
I have two dear neices who are both autistic and aged 42 and 44 and will forever live with their parents. I totally understand that. They are mute.
However, I don't think it's what a 20 year old would want......to be living with their parents in a retirement community.
Our daughter taught at a community college.
Students do not usually have the "social life" that a university campus and college town would have.
Community colleges are often used for two year associate degrees or as a stepping stone to get into a 4 year university or by adults taking night classes after work.
In our neighborhood, we have one family down at the end who have two twenty something "twin boys".......one has a mental issue; both came home to live as they could not support themselves. Their "drumming" drives the neighbors crazy. One lost his license and got a bicycle which he drove through snow and ice.........now he's got his license back and bought a motorcycle..........the noise is deafening between the bike and the drums..........everyone complains. The rest of us are all 60 somethings and enjoy a quiet peaceful life.
I guess I should feel very blessed that our two adult children (18 is adult nowadays) were able to manage to stick with their education and go out ont their own to explore the world, get married, buy homes and raise families.
In ending, we have tons of YOUNG FRIENDS that we've known since their birth and childhoods...........they love to visit us and our door is always open........they love to send us pics of their new babies and their school aged children.......they bring the kids over to visit us.........but none of them live with their parents.
We love young people. Just don't think they should live with their parents. The "room mate situation" is very popular with the younger crowd. It teaches responsibility, budgeting, etc.