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Originally Posted by senior citizen
I agree with you.
Our 40 year old and 28 year old spouse loved it; he said he could actually envision himself at "retirement" living in TV. That would be age 55....as he said "in 15 years". Will never happen with two babies now and more anticipated soon........the math just doesn't work.
I cannot even, in my wildest dreams, imagine our son living in THE VILLAGES at age 20 when he was still at the university or at age 22 upon graduation when he relocated out west to Colorado.
Your son sounds just like my son. Once he hit California I knew he would never ever move back to NY, whether to our house or whatever. But he too loves to visit me here in TV.
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California is beautiful as well........Colorado in a more rugged way, but stunningly beautiful if one can take the altitude.
Our son flies often to California on business; his wife has family there and in Oregon. When he spread his wings to leave our little town at age 17 to live on campus 4 hours north of us, he began his journey to independence and as I said earlier, has made a very good life for himself.
As has your son.
With few jobs remaining in small towns (unless you are in the medical field or self employed), they have to "go west young man".........all the high tech jobs are in Colorado and California.
However, he also flies back east a lot, to clients in N.Y.C. , N.J., up north to Minneapolis, and so and and so forth, Chicago, etc........well rounded traveler.
Our daughter did move away after graduation from the university that was 4 hours one way from us....lived on campus as well, then got an apartment up there..........later moved to Boston to begin her career, got married and then told her husband she wanted to "raise a family" but only in Vermont........so she did return to the northern part of our state.
They also had bought homes in Massachusetts.
As I originally mentioned, I thought they'd both come home to their childhood bedrooms upon graduation.........at age 21/22 but what did I know?
In hindsight and retrospect, what they did was healthy....both for them and for us.
It might be different in other parts of the country as we have a cousin who really loves having her 30 year old son still living at home; makes his lunch every morning, washes his clothes, cooks his supper, etc. and says he is saving for his million dollar home at the Jersey shore.
He is self employed as a landscaper and more power to him, but with every year that passes, I begin to wonder. We bought low and resold for a profit each time........never did even contemplate buying a million dollar home. In our dreams. Often, some parents, of children who do not have mental or physical disabilities, are just enablers....or just hate to see their babies grow up. Our cousin still calls her son "her baby"....and said she would not retire to THE VILLAGES as long as he remains in N.J. Go figure.