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Originally Posted by glgene
I agree, as long as you're polite and constructive. I remember from Toastmasters this "sandwich approach" when evaluating a speaker's message and delivery:
1) Compliment
2) Recommend
3) Compliment
It's not always easy, but worthy of effort...most of the time <g>
Gene
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I believe I got the (1-2) treatment on another thread, several months ago. The poster started by giving me the benifit of the doubt that I meant well. I suppose that was the compliment. Then came the "however" and a long list of complaints/recommendations or whatever. The problem is: It can come off sounding like the person is trying to be manipulative rather than genuine. Here's what I came away with: "You're a nice person, you mean well, but you realy don't know what you're talking about."
Like you said, "it's not always easy".
About being polite and constructive: I believe that's exactly what I did in my frist post above. But, inspite of it, you can see what some of the comments are. If people don't like the message, it can never be polite enough.