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Originally Posted by mommieswamie
How do you know when it is time to give up and move closer to your children. What are the signs? How and when do you make such a decision? I am sure that those of us who really want to leave this beautiful place are few and far between, but sometimes it becomes a necessity. So how do you know and what if you know it is time and you don't want to make the decision. You don't want to leave? Then what do you do?
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I did not read all the post. I assume the problem is that you need help with your husband. My mother had the same problem. She did what you did but in the long run it was not enough. With a lot of advice from family and friends she decided it was best for her husband and for her to put him in a nursing home. Part of the benefit was better care for her husband but also a lot less in the way of care giving demands that she just could not keep up with. Sounds like you should do this, go back to your old way of life and visit your husband. Going home for relatives to help might only make the problems worse as far as the quality of family life goes.