My parents moved from Boston to Tamarac, Florida after my dad had one of the first ever triple by passes and could not stand the Boston cold anymore. They lived in their home in Tamarac for 30 yrs. but then my mom became exhausted from looking after my dad on her own with no family. My husband and I had them come live with us, where they stayed for 1 1/2 yrs in Seattle where we lived and then moved into a retirement home near our house. To make a long experience short, my dad passed away a year ago and we have just moved my mom back to Florida to Sumter Place Assisted Living and we will arrive tomorrow to live in our new home in The Villages which we bought a year ago. My parents always wished they had stayed in the warmth of Florida but appreciated being cared for and having us close tby to deal with multiple issues. My mom has now returned to her beloved Florida and is loving it. But the point is, family can support you while you need it. You can come bak to your home in The Villages when the time is right. But let your children give back to you when you need it. And then go home again when you can be able to enjoy it without worry. And if you choose to stay with or near your children, then sell your place in The Villages. Unburden yourself and let the kids help out. It is a mitzvah which means they get to do something of great value and meaning from the heart.
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