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Old 12-08-2012, 08:53 AM
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You know I told myself I was finished commenting on this thread, because as is normal, it has turned into a discussion of something other than what was posted. But I find myself wanting to say a couple of other things.

First, redwitch, I'm very glad you posted your thoughts. It is better for you to explain why this is painful, rather than some of us trying to. Although I do have to say something about your post. You state that this term used in TV just means people who have moved here and are happy. I do disagree with that. To me it means the people who are blindly devoted to all things TV, without the use of logic. The people on this list that blast anyone who dares to suggest anything negative or something that needs to be looked at. Those that state it doesn't matter if your house is swallowed by a sink hole, or the costs go up, or the developer might leave town after the build out...just love it and be quiet because it's paradise. I think probably the best term to replace it is Blind Faith. Although that really doesn't seem strong enough. And of course Blind Faith is more normally used for religious groups, or at least those pseudo-religious groups that control their followers like Jim Jones. And sometime not so fringe religious groups. (I'm reminded of the little boy who asked his father, "Daddy, what is a cult?" His father responded, "Oh a cult is any religion other than ours.")

But I for one respect you and others. Even though the kool--aid remark does seem to describe this phenomenon well, I don't want to hurt your feelings. After digging around it seems clear that Jonestown is the source of this term in our modern usage. So, I personally won't use it again.

I am struck by the odd posts that jump to the conclusion that if we give you the courtesy of not using that term, just here where we know you, we are soon going to be visited by the language police and can't say anything. I'm just trying to be understanding for one person who I've enjoyed chatting with on this site. It is a small enough gesture. And a very easy one.

Someone mentioned that the N word used to be OK. It was OK because the only people that matter in that world were white. So there was silent agreement the feelings of black people didn't matter. I'm pleased that my generation had the courage to say, "you know just because I'm white doesn't mean I think that's OK. Stop saying it." It's slow progress, but it's progress. We have a next door neighboor only 10 years or so older than us. He adores our two kids and would do anything for them. But they refuse to go in his house any more because he is an uncontrolled bigot. They simply won't appear to condone this words, by just sitting there quietly.

A few years ago jokes about gays were quite funny. People enjoyed telling them and laughing. That's great unless you happen to be gay or someone you love is. Then, it's not all that funny. You stay quiet because you cannot afford to come out. Now that is changing, again slowly.

So the bottom line for all of this, and people who complain about political correctness going to far, is this. It is easy for the majority to put down any minority, whether by race, sex, religion, politics or a nice lady who doesn't want to be reminded of a tragedy. Sure it's easy to ignore these groups because there are more of us than there are of them. But it doesn't make it right.

It isn't that hard to try and be nice. OK, that's my sermon for today. Please turn in your hymnals to number 496, "It's a beautiful day in the villages."
DEAR old Dave,

You are a dear kind man who thinks for himself and will be a joy to a ton of new friends when you move here, if you do. (We G's hope to be three of them)

I very playfully want to point out to you that the chip that they will imbed in your neck when they take your ID photo when AND IF you buy here may turn you into a similarly cultish person as myself and others.

Do you remember how you felt about raising children when you didn't have any?

Do you recall how old 45 used to be? Oh dear, 55? Horrors 65? I won't go further. I said at one time in my life, I would NEVER do that to find myself doing it.

Some kind of snarky person pointed out yesterday that older people more frequently die in automobile accidents than other age group and I was all bummed and was gonna show her and I looked it up and she was right. I am just sayin' that you could be wrong in a few of your thoughts here. You COULD be. You don't know, because you don't live here.

I am personally observing a lot of people who are acting quite foolishly happy here. I kind of think that they were happy THERE...and that is the reason that I have to say to you, Old Dave, that you seem like a person who is reasonably happy now, wherever you are and I wouldn't be at all if you were a little more than reasonably happy here if you choose to move here.

So don't come runnin' to me when you love it here and start defending this absolutely WONDERFUL place and may even turn out just like me.

Hugs.

Gracie

P.S.There have been seven homes burnt to the ground from lightning strikes in the villages in the last eight years.
NO homes have been swallowed by sinkholes. Some have been damaged.
Daily someone crashes and breaks gate guard posts.
People drive like crazy people.
Dogs poop in unexpected places.
There have been sitings of members of the other political party on this campus.
It AIN'T all Purty here.
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