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Originally Posted by perrjojo
We did the same MISTAKE about 6 years ago, moved back to NJ for the grandchildren, our idea not theirs. The winters were terrible and we ended up renting for a month or 2 every year in south Florida. The cost of living up north was much higher than here. So back we came to Florida to benefit OUR lives and health. Need I tell you how much we lost financial buying when prices were high and selling when they were in the basement? Do yourself a favor and think long and hard about that type of move before you do it. In a few years the children will be involved in lots of things and probably have very little time for you and what would happen if your son was offered a job somewhere else..........would he stay there for you? Please think it over and weigh all the pros and cons. Good luck in what ever you decide. |
Words of wisdom from someone who went through the experience of relocating several times...........which I can totally relate to.
Moving back and forth is expensive, to say the least....not just in the long distance moving fees, but in the selling of the homes......in the "re furnishing of the Florida home and then again the northern home".
As they say, think long and hard.
Adult children do want to see the world, as others have said, and often their careers take them to far out places. You may move there, only to be left alone........as they change their minds or get promotions that take them elsewhere.
When we moved to Florida the first time in the early '70s, my mom and stepdad had just bought a building lot next door to our home in Vermont, thinking they would relocate from New Jersey when they retired. Luckily, they were able to sell the lot to a neighbor of ours.
A year later, we returned to Vermont and bought another home on the same street........my folks then retired up to Vermont and had a good 30 years of retirement.......so it eventually worked out for them.
I also ended up as their caregiver.
After our family was raised, we again thought we'd like a condo on the beach........so again, we sold our home and relocated.....dragging my elderly mom down to Florida with us........less than five months later we returned again to our old neighborhood.........
So, from experience, I can say that "hansel" knows what they are talking about. You lose money when you sell your home in haste, esp. in a down market.
Another poster had an excellent idea.........winter in Florida and summer up by the grandkids.........if you can swing it. You would have the best of both worlds.......if that is in the realm of your budget to do so.
BEST OF LUCK.