Perhaps we can start with the thought that being non-judgmental means that one accepts there are alternatives to what one believes to be correct or proper. Somne years ago a friend was moved by the Army to an area much different from where he grew up. His attitude was that people did things, cooked things, drove, walked, talked, etc. wrong. To me, that is judgmental in that it assumes his way was not only right, but the only right way. Much better to say people did those things differently from how he did them. Not wrong, just different.
So, to me, being non-judgmental means not assuming my way is the only way.
Now there are certainly standards or rules that are accepted by society in general. To say it is wrong to drive on the wrong side of the road, to serve spoiled food, to attack someone physically, or similar, is not being judgemental in that you are upholding established/accepted standards of behavior and not enforcing personal standards that are not widely accepted.
Let's see what other members think.
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