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Originally Posted by Golfingnut
Keep that thought as you are 100% correct. None of us on here are trying to gush out with unwarranted positive comments. Even we do not want this board to be sensitive to a fault, but:::::::
What I am saying is to be civil, you must try to tone it down when you become aggressive or negative.
Try using words like DISLIKE instead of HATE.
Confused instead of STUPID. etc. etc.
We all know, that being over the top in either direction is not beneficial to anyone and we know that person to person it would not be handled that way. This board gives some the opportunity to be less than civil due to non-accountability. If you tell me that you disagree with my opinion, I promise I will consider yours. If you say I am an idiot for believing the way I do, You have made no viable point at all. That is an argument not a discussion.
It is not the subject that offends, it is the words used to assemble ones opinion in a paragraph. We would still have the now defunct forum if everyone would have been civil with their posts.
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Your posts, Anarick, golfingnut,polarbear and many others were so well written that the message has already affected many of us.
Defining the problem and carefully debating the problem often sews seeds to cause the reader to rethink the issue. I find that when a person who feels strongly about an issue states his/her case without using negative words and phrases he/she has a much better chance to influence others.
None of us can help our strong feelings and they aren't wrong. All of us have a responsibility to consider that we ourselves just MIGHT be wrong.
What if it is eventually discovered that Gary Morse is a kind good person who feels the responsibilty heavily to leave a legacy of his life and hard work in the form of this wonderful town? What if it is discovered that Gary Morse is a uncaring and greedy person who uses every power at his means to goudge more money from naive people who flock here? What if it is eventually discoved that he is a little of both, a human much like us, who has gambled his money, worked hard and become an amazing business success?
I am just as wrong to diefy someone I do not know as those are to vilify someone they do not know. We just don't KNOW sometimes, we can speculate, we can come to probable conclusions, we can feel and we can be influenced by our life, our religious and political views and our core values and we can suspect. Many of us have been a member of one faith and switched to another and many of us have voted in one way and switched to another. We change and we grow and it never hurts to try to keep an open mind...but at our ages, that may be a lost cause.
We all are who we are and we all have admirable qualities. I often get hot when someone says something that hurts someone or me, but I try to keep a level head. Sometimes I win. Sometimes I lose.
Just as an example of finding it very hard to change our core views.