To the OP I am sorry for your loss. However, I do agree with ilovetv that you really have to weigh the circumstances. My Mom died almost a year ago and it was almost 2 years of flying back and forth from NYC to here. I never knew how long I was going to have to stay. While I have no regrets and continue to come back and check on Dad it was very difficult. There were so many times when Dad thought this was it and I was afraid I wouldn't make it. So I can understand all the stresses involved in being even further away. Luckily my son was grown so that was a small comfort. We did do what she wanted and Dad,my son and I were there with her in the end. But after actually going thru this I will never judge what someone does or does not do. As I said you never know the circumstances
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