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Originally Posted by Uptown Girl
Senior,
I don't think it is trivial to want to have a measure of self esteem in your appearance, whether it be toning arms or covering a radical mastectomy with a fantasy tattoo, or something else. It is, or should be for your comfort alone. ( I am talking about mentally healthy people, not those with obsessive fixation disorders)
One can indulge in that kind (or any kind) of 'trivial behavior', in addition to thinking of loftier ideals or tragic world events.
It bothers me to think someone should be made to feel guilty for wanting to feel better about themselves.
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As Barefoot said: "There is no right or wrong answer"....
I do not remember saying it was trivial behaviour?
I plead "no contest".
All I know is that there's been a big sea change since we were all in our teens and twenties. The younger generation have taught all of us not to be so vain. We were the generation who couldn't go out without the eye makeup and all the goop. They went out bright eyed and fresh faced to face the world and conquered it.
No one is forbidding people to use their lotions or potions.
But, in my humble opinion, a kind heart will always make a wrinkled person radiant. I've visited and loved enough of those wrinkled countenances in nursing homes over my lifetime....to form this opinion.
True beauty and radiance comes from within...........not from outside.
Maybe I've lived in Vermont too long. A rural area is NOT like the city or the suburbs. You can get away with no makeup and less glitz.....
actually, no glitz at all. No one has to "put on their face" before stepping out the door......and God only knows how many have crepy wrinkled skin up here.
To a lot of folks , the old adage "Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder" and "Beauty is as Beauty Does" remain true today...........we are not Hollywood Starlets........especially at our age.
Here is something a young 35 year old niece sent to me, which just happened to appeal to her deepest senses...........and she is still young and naturally beautiful.........with a young toddler and a kindergartener.
BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER:
"Everyday in this world I happen to come across another sad, and lonely face...eyes weary from tears running like faucets , mind defeated from years of mental anguish and torment by society's standard of what is beautiful."
"My Lady, beauty is in the eye of the beholder,
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched, but are felt in the heart.
As long as your heart stays pure, than you are beautiful.
Don't let the world get you down."
"My Lady, you are as beautiful as God is...
We are made in his image, and since God is beautiful, you are beautiful too, because we shared the same face molded from clay, we are just a shell, a small portion of his greatness."
"So why stress yourself over striving to be beautiful?
That kind of beauty is unbearable,
and drives us to despair,
offering us for a minute, the glimpse of an eternity that we should stretch out over time."
"True beauty comes with time.
So take heed my beautiful sister.....
Future Mothers
My future daughters
Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror............
So don't be in a rush to change your looks.
You've got an eternity to be beautiful..............
and beauty changes with "time" and with "age"........"