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Originally Posted by graciegirl
All of us reading this could never agree.
I love my grandchildren and being a human know how strong emotions can be and how strong the sex urge is and when I look at a stadium full of people I know how each of them was conceived.
I try very hard to teach the principals that I believe in and also deal with the reality of life and the way normal people behave ...and I talk to them and talk to them and talk to them because they like me and care what I think.
I don't want any subject to be off limits and I started talking to them about sex very early as did their parents. I know that drinking and driving, having sex unprotected and not taking care of money responsibly can really derail your life SUBSTANTIALLY and unalterably in some cases.
So I concentrated on those subjects.
Although right is right and wrong is wrong the world has changed quite a bit since we were children and our grandchildren are living in a changed world.
No matter how much we want to trust in our own decision making and that of our children, hormones are working hard to keep the world populated with humans.
I think this is something that we will never agree on, all of us. We have to do and think and teach what we think is right.
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I don't see it as an explosive subject at all...........it's just that times have changed since we were teenagers and young adults in the 1960's.
My parents, who would be well over 100 years old now, were they still living........never discussed sex with us; neither did my husband's mom.
She'd just tell him to kneel down and say his prayers (when he got back from a date with me).
Now, our daughter who was born in 1968 after three years of marriage, was a very precocious child. I still remember when a local doctor in town was giving a "talk" on how to teach the little ones about sex.......it was held at the Episcopalian church in town and all of us young parents went. Our son was almost about to be born; so this was 1971. Daughter was three years old. Son to arrive very soon..........
The doctor advised all of us to tell the children from the youngest age (his own kids were the same age as ours)........the facts about how babies are conceived, how they are born......etc. He said we should all use the proper words.
So we did........we went home and told her everything........
Next day we had all the neighbors calling us, laughing.......saying she had gone around and chatted up the folks telling them just how baby had gotten into mommy and how he was going to exit.........she didn't know he was a boy yet as there were no tests for sex determination in 1971....but she got it down pat.......and was very natural about it.
She's a great mom now to three grandchildren of ours..........
We just used some "advice" from experts......but mostly our own common sense. We were a tight knit family unit (as all our relatives lived out of state) so we spent a lot of time nurturing our brood.....and it paid off.
We never had nannies or mothers helpers like they do today.
I took my job as mom very seriously..........and it all turned out well.
P.S. I'll say it again as I've said it before...........t.v. was not violent like it is today.......they lived in a safe little town and we had peaceful lives with no commuting.
Their era was THE WALTONS and LITTLE HOUSE ON THE PRAIRIE.............it was a simpler lifestyle when they were children and teens..........it's different now.