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Originally Posted by Jim 9922
Fifty for us next year. A tradition in our families. Both sets of parents and grand parents went past 50 years each, only to be separated by death of a partner. And, no divorces among any of the married children of the 3 generations. We all took/take our wedding vows seriously. Maybe it helps to be married to a wonderful partner!
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That's a wonderful "tradition" and wonderful family legacy.........
We'll be celebrating our 50th in 2015.......May 15, 1965 to May 15, 2015.
Like many of the others, we met while young....age 17 in 1962 and became best friends. That friendship has lasted these past 51 years.
The recurring thread in all of these long marriages is respect, trust, being best friends and I'll add being patient and kind. There is great comfort in being with someone familiar who is also your best friend for the long term. A sense of humor is a plus.....no doubt about it.
People who do not enjoy fighting or high drama.......usually last the longest. They can stay calm in the midst of turmoil.....and save the day.
Those who need constant drama and excitement will rarely make the 50 year mark. There are some folks who will provoke arguments out of fear of closeness.........thus, perpetuating the quest for a perfect someone, who probably does not exist........
It boils down to comfort and familiarity interspersed with true love......
vs.
Constant excitement, newness (meaning new relationships) and perhaps the thrill of the catch.
We've all caught our oldies but goodies a long long time ago......it seems.
I just can't believe it's been this long. Where have all the years gone?
Astrologically, it would be interesting to see how everyone paired up........
as earth signs with fellow earth signs, both stable with feet on the ground, will do well........vs. a fire sign and a water sign........water puts out fire.
Two water signs, deep thinking, perhaps spiritual and sensitive.......would also understand each other.......
And so on and so on.........while initially, differences might seem intriguing, often it is the sameness that brings the comfort and ease to a marriage.......someone who truly understands you and thinks along the same lines........has the same values, etc. would just "click".....
If one partner craves constant excitement while the other just wants peace and quiet.......it might not last for long.........unless both enjoy that same sense of adventure and then would be on the same page together with regard to their plans...........
It does seem like there are an abundant amount of "peas in a pod" with happy longterm marriages in TV.....
I've enjoyed reading all that you've shared...............thanks again to all.