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Originally Posted by Uptown Girl

I am a retired registered barber/stylist (33 years experience). I don't know what your hair is like, but unless you want a clipper cut, here are some suggestions:

Ask for a barber/stylist who will agree to wash your hair first and cut it wet.
With a full head of hair, your best cut will be a layered cut- no thinning shears, no razor cut.

He/she should ask you questions to discern what you want done, but if they don't, be pro-active. Tell them your preferences BEFORE your hair is washed, when they can see how it lays and how you intend to comb it.
Example:" I want the same style I have now, but the top is much longer than I like it to be." or " do not raise my sideburns". Whatever your preferences may be.

DON"T tell them, "trim it up" or "take off two weeks worth". Those phrases are subject to personal interpretation by the barber and his/her interpretation may not match yours.
Once they begin, pay attention. If you see them veering away from your instructions, respectfully speak up. (hopefully that won't ever happen)

When you are done, before they take the cape off of you, take a good look. Run your hands through your hair. If something bothers you,
(example: the sides are bulky) ask for an adjustment.
At least that gives you a fighting chance.

I think that part of the problem here, is that many barbers are part time, retired from another state where they made their living. The prices for men's haircuts here are for the most part comparatively less. It tends, perhaps, to dampen the passion a bit. It shouldn't, but I think that's what I see. I have seen very few great men's haircuts in the two years I have been here.

In the meantime, (and I know this sounds goofy) keep an eye out for any fellow who has hair like yours. If his hair looks good, ask him who his barber is and go from there. It's worth a shot!

And... don't feel like you are making a big to-do about wanting a good haircut. Nothing makes a man look as polished and handsome as a great looking haircut does..... except maybe adding a great looking tuxedo!

All good advice, as usual. I did the same thing--asked people whose hairstyle I like and whose hair is similar in texture to mine. Also, I have pictures of myself in the greatest cut/style I ever had, and I take those pictures when I go to have my hair cut. Even my stylist I've had for years in MI likes to see those pics to review the style. And the one I use in FL followed the pictures and cut my hair bang-on from the first appointment.

So if you have a picture of yourself with your hair styled to your liking, take it with you to the stylist.