[Uptown Girl]

First let me say that anyone who thinks divorce is 'too easy' hasn't been there.
Most often, events of divorce are a long and heartbreaking experience- with tough decisions and long term residual effects.

When two people decide to marry, they have (in the best case scenario) chosen someone that they can focus love upon. They do this because they believe in having that 'other' and focusing that love, they will feel good.
So they start out holding that 'other' in very high regard and the other is a significant priority.
In a successful relationship, the couple hold mutual goals and are in harmony with those goals (or desires) even as those goals evolve.

Sometimes, one or the other has desires that manifest, that are not in harmony with what their designated partner wants. There are two choices if they remain together. One can tolerate the differences ( which usually doesn't work well in the long term) or one can allow the differences, be calm in heart and still see enough mutual desires to make the union harmonious.



If the differences become far greater than the co-creating, there is not much one can do without denying their basic desires. You can not successfully convince another to give up their desires because YOU want it that way.
People divorce, or stay together for many reasons- but it all boils down to what they deem is necessary to their happiness and/or sustenance... and those things are the elixir of life. Whatever THAT representational elixir is, is individual to each one and is subject to evolving.