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Originally Posted by duffysmom
It is upsetting to hear that you think beating the livin crap out of children is a good and ethical thing.When I grew up I had the misfortune of meeting many, many creeps who had absolutely no ethics as well as fine upstanding people. Today there are children who live exemplary lives but the press never reports the good only the bad. When I was growing up the media including print and TV were not running the country as they are now and influencing how we perceive our neighbors. Growing up I can't tell you how many times I heard about the despicable hippies, the radical college kids, and how the negro's are getting uppity, on and on ad nauseum.
It appears to me looking down on the youth while patting ourselves on the back is a generational thing.
By the way, many of the Priests who molested children were from my generation but we were too cowed by authority to take action.
I have high hopes for the generations coming up because they have the same creator I have.
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Duffy's mom. I really
DIDN'T mean beating the livin' crap out of kids but I do stand for spanking for the right things or a very strict time out that means time out. AND I did mean making a point about stealing and wrongdoing and KNOWING what the kids were doing because we were the folks who were raising them. I also have fine and upstanding adult grandkids and their friends are as well and they are employed!. I don't think the kids I know are bad but the kids generally seem to be getting into a lot more trouble than when we were kids. I don't recall kids being murderers frequently back then.
I hope I have the same creator you do too. I have high hopes for kids raised a lot like we were raised and a lot like our kids were raised. I remember early on listening to a psychologist who came to speak to a group of us young PTA parents and what he said stuck with me. That you can always take away rules if you have too many, but that kids need absolutes when they are little and the perimeters can be broadened when they grow older. In other words don't start disciplining a teenager, it's too late.
People who sexually abuse kids are still with us and they aren't just priests unfortunately and that in itself makes it even more important to be with children as much as you can if you are their parent. It is not only the big things but the little things. It is the protecting and the cookie giving and the kisses and kindness and hugs and winks and the togetherness that forms a small child's character. AND seeing us forms our children. It isn't what we tell them, it is what we ARE they will become...and that goes for the folks who are the caregivers to todays generation. Important to vette them well.
Things have changed...and some things are for the better and some aren't.
I am sure you are right and I am sure I didn't make my point clearly, It is twice now in 24 hours I have been nailed for exaggeration. I never had the livin' crap beat outa me nor did I beat my children. I did get a few spankings.