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Originally Posted by rayschic
I moved down here in my forties and have been here almost 8 years. I still get lots of nasty comments about being too young to be here. I have noticed that it is a lot of the same people. For example, my street used to have monthly parties and at EVERY party, two of the couples would corner me and grill me about why I lived here. At first, I was offended because I felt they were being pretty rude. But, after they kept bringing it up at EVERY party, I just excuse myself to talk to someone else and laugh it off. Some peolple will NOT change their opinion that younger people don't deserve to be here. I have also gotten a few snide remarks at the pool. You just can't change how OTHER people feel, so try to just laugh it off. It's not worth getting upset about. I don't expect to get these comments much longer. LOL
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Rayshic?
Are they all nasty? Or just sort of back handed complements. I know a girl of 90 and she is beautiful and she is always getting..."You are way too young to live here". And she generally receives that compliment with her usual grace.
I sort of look on youth and the appearance of youth as a lovely blessing just as the blessing of skill or athletic ability. I kind of have been taught that we don't put those advantages out to others and especially to those who do not have them. It seems obvious in a community of mostly over 55 people that those who are younger are generally more fit and more attractive. Sometimes it is hard to tell. This whole issue just doesn't sit right with me. I have spent the entire morning trying to see the ugliness in my soul and I am sure it is my character weakness somehow.
I would like to hear just what kind of rude comments do older people address toward younger residents? I am aware of the reverse, unfortunately. Sometimes groups of younger prople form to exclude older ones here and I am told that that is because older people and younger people do not have the same interests. I am still trying to understand all this.
I know that I was beginning to disappear in my whole spectrum age community up North. Strangers often would look through me. If this has happened to you, you will know what I mean. I love that here we are all somewhat the same age and have many of the same life experiences. We have launched our families, had interesting work, managed to save and sacrifice enough to quit working and had enough courage to leave the familiar to begin a new life. It just feels nice to be with age peers, give or take 30 or 40 years. I still love young people and have not forgotten how to speak their language but am glad to be with people who have been there and done that in life.
This whole thread has made me feel bad.... And especially when people I think very much of were shocked at my attitude. I most certainly must be wrong.