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Originally Posted by graciegirl
Rayshic?
Are they all nasty? Or just sort of back handed complements. I know a girl of 90 and she is beautiful and she is always getting..."You are way too young to live here". And she generally receives that compliment with her usual grace.
I sort of look on youth and the appearance of youth as a lovely blessing just as the blessing of skill or athletic ability. I kind of have been taught that we don't put those advantages out to others and especially to those who do not have them. It seems obvious in a community of mostly over 55 people that those who are younger are generally more fit and more attractive. Sometimes it is hard to tell. This whole issue just doesn't sit right with me. I have spent the entire morning trying to see the ugliness in my soul and I am sure it is my character weakness somehow.
I would like to hear just what kind of rude comments do older people address toward younger residents? I am aware of the reverse, unfortunately. Sometimes groups of younger prople form to exclude older ones here and I am told that that is because older people and younger people do not have the same interests. I am still trying to understand all this.
I know that I was beginning to disappear in my whole spectrum age community up North. Strangers often would look through me. If this has happened to you, you will know what I mean. I love that here we are all somewhat the same age and have many of the same life experiences. We have launched our families, had interesting work, managed to save and sacrifice enough to quit working and had enough courage to leave the familiar to begin a new life. It just feels nice to be with age peers, give or take 30 or 40 years. I still love young people and have not forgotten how to speak their language but am glad to be with people who have been there and done that in life.
This whole thread has made me feel bad.... And especially when people I think very much of were shocked at my attitude. I most certainly must be wrong.
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Well, here's two examples. You can decide.
For several years, we owned two homes. One we lived in, one we rented out.
Comment from neighbor " How can you possibly afford to own two homes in TV. You're too young...did your parents die and leave you their money ?"
Another neighbor asks EVERY time I see him, if I am working. Then he proceeds to tell me that I SHOULD get a job. I'm too young to be retired. I should continue working and I'll have plenty of time to enjoy what TV has to offer....LATER.
There are many more. I blame just the individual and try to just ignore them.
I'm too busy enjoying TV.