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Originally Posted by graciegirl
Being young is such a positive, just as being healthy is or being rich.
One should expect some jealousy, so one should always act gracious in the face of it.
If one is 70 and playing bridge at a table with 90 year olds and comments are made about how nice ones hands look one should not take offense, smile, and continue to count the cards.
If one is 60 and gets twenty yards more out of a nine iron, and ones playing partners are in their eighties, one should overlook being called a kid.
One should not whine about people noticing that one is beautiful, young or advantaged. One should not say poor me, I am young and people are making comments about it. This is for second graders who skip to the third grade too.
Miss Manners.
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Gracie, I believe I can safely say that everyone enjoys and appreciates a sincere compliment. "Gee, you don't look your age!", "You are so smart!", "How do you stay in such terrific shape?", etc.
What folks do not appreciate are mean spirited, snide comments and disparaging remarks. "What are YOU doing here?", "You are too young to be here.", "You don't belong here." and so on.
More frequently received are "the looks" that are the body language/facial expression equivalents of the above noted remarks.
It boils down to this. Are the looks/comments expressions of appreciation and admiration or are they manifestations of envy and resentment, two ugly character defects?
This behavior may be inherent since humans are at some level competitive with one another.