[graciegirl]

I still say it has a lot to do with a child's own parents not being present as much as they used to be during the formative years. Now this is extending into another generation. I am not saying to give up one's entire life, but just the first five formative years. Young people are setting aside four years for college, five years for a child would be good, either the mom or the dad, either one to be with that child during it's first five years full time.. They are the ONLY ones who have the child's best interests instinctively wired into them. When you are not with a child as much as we used to be, we become more like grandparents or treasured aunts and can't see the child's faults, or don't want to see them. Straightening out the little issues early on and making them important issues gives children a moral compass. It doesn't always work but it mostly does.