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Originally Posted by DianeM
Thank you for the hugs and good thoughts. Today just overwhelmed me with melancholy. Tomorrow is another day and one to embrace and start again.
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Now, that is the right attitude as you can clearly see how much support you are receiving in your new chosen location.
I know from experience in trying to cheer up folks who had either lost a spouse, lost a parent or lost a child......that truly there are NO WORDS that can comfort them when they are in the midst of the despair you seem to be in......or else you would not publically announce it. It's a cry for help.
The generous spirited folks in TV have reciprocated with offers of help.
You can graciously accept it........or else if you need more time to "cocoon" then do that. Nothing wrong with that at all.
When our dear friend and next door neighbor passed at age 50, leaving two school aged children (college and high school) her husband was BEYOND GRIEF........he would come over to our home every single day and cry on my couch. Now, usually, I have just the right words to comfort people and I am a good listener.........but nothing I said would comfort him. I realized it was his own guilt.....at things he might have done better..........but the moral to this story is that eventually he joined a grief group at our hospital.........then he joined a widower/widows grief group and believe it or not, began dating. He eventually met his present wife and alls well that ends well.
It was NOT easy for him but he got through it and came out o.k.
Just want you to know that hopefully things should get brighter eventually.
If not, then perhaps you should seek professional help as we are all amateurs here just speaking from personal experience.
Some people do well to let it all hang out.
Others do better "coping" alone.
It all depends on your particular makeup....and how private a person you are.
Best wishes for happier moments. Just take each day at a time.
One thing that would definitely uplift you, although at first you might not think so..........VOLUNTEER AT A LOCAL NURSING HOME. Those people are starved for visitors. We still remember all the happy greetings we would get from the oldtimers when we would visit my mom, especially when she was at the end of her journey and could not communicate with us anymore...........I'd chat with others who still could speak; we'd wheel them out to the patio to get fresh air and hear the birds chirping, smell the flowers, etc...........it takes you away from your own sadness. It brings cheer to those who truly need it. The ones confined in nursing homes and perhaps in a wheelchair or bedridden. Try it. It will elevate your mood and make others happy as well.