I think that people post on here according to their life experiences and I also think that our level of comfort with others is pretty much pre determined at birth. Some people find it easy to interact with others and some don't. I found a very strange combination when teaching that most shy children are usually stubborn and they have at least one parent with the same difficulty. I found that backed up when I read the epoch book called Shyness by Phillip Zimbardo.
That said, we do NOT all carry with us the same criteria for friends, some are only comfortable with a certain flavor and some like and enjoy pretty much everyone.
I have found that my offers to get together with people who post on here that they are lonely have had no success. I recognize loneliness and I am SO blessed to have not one but two compatible and enjoyable housemates.
There is a valid recent study that says that seniors have more depression than the general population and it may be linked to low levels of Serotonin. I also feel that many people do NOT seek treatment for sadness as they feel it is a character weakness.
I know that many kind and warm and loving people stand at the ready to reach out and welcome anyone who is having a bit of problem finding nice folks to talk to.
We are all the same people we always were for the most part, only older and we all need people to care about and to care about us.
Kitty's assumption that some need professional medical help is valid. We have had at least two suicides in the last few months in The Villages.
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