[angiefox10]

I'm sure any hostess would handle the situation mentioned by the OP with grace. However, that being said, it is rude to invite another person to a party of any kind if they were not invited. I didn't get from the original post this was about what a good hostess should do. I believe they were talking about what a good guest should do.

As the OP mentioned in their post there may be reasons for not inviting that person or more people. We have neighbors that just do not get along and to invite those couples to the same party would be very uncomfortable for them.

Or.... what if the hostess knows the person you are bringing and doesn't get along with them?

We also have hostesses who provide all the food, and wouldn't have enough food if more people were invited.

There was a party in our hood, that about 25 were invited and close to 50 showed up. Of course a hostess would handle it with grace. It turned out it was one person who invited all the extra guests and made it a free for all.

I don't know of any other place that this happens outside of The Villages. Did we leave our manners up north when we came here?

For those who suggested the hostess doesn't mind... Was she being a good hostess? Or does she really mind. See, you don't really know.... do you?

Good manners should tell you that you don't bring your guest to another person's party if they weren't invited.