I too agree that asking the host if you can bring someone puts the host in a precarious situation. They may not want to have additional guests for whatever reasons they may have. Perhaps they simply can't afford more people than those they had already invited; or perhaps it's a matter of available comfortable space for the expected number.
I once had a party and invited lots of guests, and a neighbor handled this same situation quite well. He brought over a gift a couple of days early that he was planning to give us at the party, and stated that he couldn't make it. When asked why he told me that he was having several friends and family staying with them for a few days. I told him that they were all more than welcome to join us, which they did, and they were wonderful and we had a great time. I was never put on the spot of having to tell him ok just to keep peace in the neighborhood.
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