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Originally Posted by blueash
Just to think of it from a different perspective... If she is the only Jew in a family of non-Jews and she is coming to join you for T-giving.... And especially if some of these family members don't know her well... She may not want to be put on display as being "other" or she may see it as being special, but no matter how you do it, she is different. She may be comfortable with that, or not. I would pass this by your son and if he says go for it, then it should be your job to ask your DIL how she would like to proceed. This is an especially touchy subject if your family has fundamentalist members who will feel it is their obligation to try to "save" her or try to find her horns.
If there are to be any prayers you might also wish to consider the content of those prayers. While she has no right to dictate your words or the words of any other attendees, you can be certain that as the Jesus and savior words go up, so will her discomfort.
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Blessedly, our family would never try to change others (except maybe drug dealers et al), and they would never do anything to make the DIL feel uncomfortable. She is very loved. She always gets Christmas presents for us. I thought the menorah would give her a chance to share her customs. The DIL is fabulous with kids, and we'll have 3 little girls at dinner. As for prayers, Hanukkah is a Jewish Feast of Thanksgiving; I think the timing is perfect. Our tradition is to take turns talking about what makes us thankful.
Anyone know where to find dreidels?