She will also need some privacy to grieve. I went through this when a friend lost her husband the same way, instantly. She was hurting so badly, and it hurt so much to see her out the window taking a walk or bike ride by herself.
I finally asked my pastor, how do you help your best friend in that situation, and he said to think/say, I cannot take away your pain, but I can hold your hand. So we remaining five pulled the wagons around but tried to perceive when to back off.
She was 54 and not looking to remarry, when lo and behold last year... Happy Ending!
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