This is a great discussion that I am familiar with having worked 14 years in a Singles program in CT. From my experience and books read, we are geared for mating at all ages. At a party, at the squares, City Fire we scan the room in seconds looking for someone that peaks our interest. We already have a grading system in our brains stored and working unconsciously at all times. A person with a specific curve or prominent check bone, nose shape, and other facial specifics and reactions that fit our grading system is found within those seconds.
We all have different pheromones. When we manage to get close (real close, like a hug) to the individual, if both are attracted to the other's pheromones, we have what we call chemistry. Fill in 2B's great response at this point.
The relationship with chemistry goes quickly and can advance to sex within a few dates. Some folks, me included, feel that the relationship may be at risk unless the individuals take time and focus on developing the other necessary aspects such as friendship, emotional intimacy, communication, etc.
If only one person reacts to the pheromones, he or she becomes the pursuer, sometimes a lonely and frustrating role.
My personal opinion is that folks our age have a better handle on entering a relationship chemically loaded or not. We are better equipped to developing the friendship, communications, and emotional intimacy need to sustain the relationship. Manaboutown also hits the nail in the head in his response. Once that attraction is there, it is difficult to feel anything but wanting for that person. The chemistry usually lasts months but can peak and wane over the lifetimes of the individuals. Since the chemistry in the body does not change that significantly, the wanting can last a lifetime. This does not prohibit that individual from entering into another relationship with the same power of chemistry. Chemistry is not a necessary requirement to have a very close relationship. Those who have experienced mutual chemistry will argue with that opinion.
Perhaps a future discussion can follow up on "elderly romance and the role of chemistry no chemistry."
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