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Originally Posted by jhrc4
A lot of sympathy for the Fire Chief ( Adult ) grown man. More sympathy for the Chiefs family...how about the " Alleged " Victim. Where is the feeling for him.
What goes on behind closed doors, lot's of movies, TV shows, and it is usually " He " was the nicest, kind, gentile, would do anything for you, the " Pillar " of the community, and then the shoe drops along with the jaws. Held without bond should tell you there is more to this. Skip the feel sorry for the Chief until we get the scoop. We'll see how long " Alleged " last's. Keep in mind...Grown Man vs Child !! " We Were Tussling Pretty Good ", so said the arrested person, and extent of injuries to the victim came from more than a " Tussle " . Big Brave Adult , not so big and brave sitting in a jail cell.
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Yes. Agree.
We raised a teenaged son. Once in high school, especially around their friends, the once little angelic boy will "test their parent's" via words.
I always felt I was the adult and I always remained in control, emotionally.
The one incident that comes to mind was when I calmly replied that "No, Dad and I cannot host a keg party" at your graduation barbecue as it's illegal". He got in my face for that; his friend was nearby.....I figured it was to impress the other kid.
At the time, our police were cracking down on parents supplying any type of alchohol at all during graduation parties (which in years previously had been totally acceptable as long as the parents and other adults were on the premises and a lot of parents in the "olden days" would rather have all the kids and their friends at their place than out driving or at someone else's place. But times changed and it was just when these boys were reaching graduation time. The newspaper was full of warnings that if parents supplied any alchohol, even a beer, they were responsible. So I said NO. I also retained my composure.......even later when I tried to talk and explain to him in private, he remained mad at me all night. But parents should show some maturity and control.
It can be done without resorting to violence.
By the way, these "barbecues" were attended by all the kids' parents as well as us......so there was adult supervision.
It wasn't like a free for all keg party one might imagine. So, the kids had a ride home.......or else the kids slept over.
But, we got through the high school years and the college years and everyone is still alive, thankfully.
Neither myself nor my husband ever felt we had to use *corporal punishment on either of our children. Neither did we scream or yell at them. Ours was a peaceful household and they both turned out great.
They actually thanked us for giving them a wonderful childhood, etc. (they both did this when they were juniors in college) and even thanked us for staying intact as a family when so many of their friends' parents had divorced.
Today they are raising their children in the same loving way without corporal punishment. I always felt that if you explained things ahead of time.........their behavior was as expected. The few teenage outbursts can be chalked up to hormones or trying to impress a friend.
Besides, knocking a kid off of a stool and then carrying this "tussle" out to the front lawn seems more like a physical attack of a father "out of control" when he is the adult and should be in control.
Even the best mannered and behaved teenage boys will test their parents at times. This man sounds like a class A "bully".
p.s. Another remembrance of the teenaged years comes to mind when we hosted Spanish Exchange students from Granada Spain (twice, once for our daughter and again for our son). Our daughter had explained to us how the boys were machismo and spoiled rotten by their mothers in Spain, yet the girls were sweet and polite (it was true).
For our son's "student exchange party" which all the teachers also attended (Spanish and our local teachers), held at our home, the boys immediately spoke up about the fact that only coca cola and other soft drinks were being served and NO ALCHOHOL........in Spain they were all allowed to drink, both at home and out while having "tapas". The chaperoning teachers tried to calm them down, but these boys were really annoyed that they couldn't drink in our house. All of them also smoked (this is junior year in high school) and they knew it was not allowed in the student exchange program so would go into the bathrooms to smoke. Boys , in particular, can have an attitude in their teens.
The teachers also retained their composure when the boys got surly over no alcohol rule. Adults do that.