I am sorry you are hurt.
A forum can be a terrible place where anonymous people who never come to gatherings to stand before others can be very cruel.
I think you are a very deep and compassionate person who loves her area and her town and is loved back.
I know I have grown to be very defensive about this place where I have met mostly wonderful people and it hurts me when someone maligns it or says things about it that are incorrect.
I have been accused of working for the developer and one person has spread rumors that my home was given to me by Gary Morse. That offends me mightily as we both have worked hard for what we have and have lived carefully and saved in order to have the things we now own.
I think that being a visitor, as opposed to being a homeowner and living year around as a villager may color our thoughts. I identify with this place. It is now MY home town. I am annoyed by people who buy here and do not think of themselves as senior citizens and who seem to have age bias against those among us that are older. It is hard not to be hurt when you are dismissed without ever having looked someone in the eye and seen their their real personality. It is worse to be misjudged because of any number of petty reasons based on unfairness.
We come here to this point in our lives having been on many separate roads and experiencing widely different things that make our personal philosophy very different from each other. We cannot agree on everything and some things always will "push a button" with us. That said, we all have so many more things in common, the one very serious one being that we have far fewer years ahead than we have behind and we have come here with the hope to find some measure of peace and joy in the years left to us. We never know what tomorrow will bring, so we all need to try to cut each other some slack, to overlook, to try to be patient and to turn the other cheek and to try to find some nugget of good in each other. It just is too much effort to be angry and to hate and to play hurtful games.
I hate when people are hurt. Please feel this honest and very genuine hug.
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