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Originally Posted by ajdeck
Just food for thought. I had cancer twice, during which time I was about
to give up everything. I'm here and now have had couple additional years
of great living with very close friends.
The weather has helped tremendously in being better and staying that way.
Now I do understand how down we all can get. But have found out
it's better to stay put until the last person has no choice. Remember,
our kids love us but do have their lives and are busy with work and all.
In reality they don't have much time for us older people even though
they might like to have the time.
Look at weather up north and ask if you would be better off not being able
to get to doctor or hospital without worry of car accident or slipping and
falling and making things even worse for you and your kids.
Main thing is 'Trust in God'.
Good Luck,
Art
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Art - thank you for your caring and wise words.
A bit of explanation. I started this thread 1 ½ years ago during a lonely, sleepless, tearful night when my husband was still at home with caregivers a few hours a day but only "me" the rest of the time. My common sense told me that we needed to be closer to our children as I was reaching a caregiver breaking point and our children wanted us closer. My emotional self said "no - I don''t want to leave. I love it here."
We did leave to be closer to our youngest child, with me crying in the back seat the entire drive to the other state. We stayed one month before returning to TV where my husband went directly into a facility to be cared for. Eight months later, my emotional sense and my common sense met and we moved again to SC, all with the help and support of our children. My husband went from one facility to another. I live an independent life in a small house very close to my husband and our daughter and her growing family. That was 5 months ago. We are very very blessed that our children wanted us closer as I know that is not always the case. By continuing to be the primary and only caregiver, which was a very hard job, I was denying my husband, children and grandchildren of the benefits of a stable and happy wife, mother and grandmother. For our family, this is what we needed to do.
Again, I do thank you for taking the time to show that you care.