[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by mommieswamie

Art - thank you for your caring and wise words.

A bit of explanation. I started this thread 1 ½ years ago during a lonely, sleepless, tearful night when my husband was still at home with caregivers a few hours a day but only "me" the rest of the time. My common sense told me that we needed to be closer to our children as I was reaching a caregiver breaking point and our children wanted us closer. My emotional self said "no - I don''t want to leave. I love it here."

We did leave to be closer to our youngest child, with me crying in the back seat the entire drive to the other state. We stayed one month before returning to TV where my husband went directly into a facility to be cared for. Eight months later, my emotional sense and my common sense met and we moved again to SC, all with the help and support of our children. My husband went from one facility to another. I live an independent life in a small house very close to my husband and our daughter and her growing family. That was 5 months ago. We are very very blessed that our children wanted us closer as I know that is not always the case. By continuing to be the primary and only caregiver, which was a very hard job, I was denying my husband, children and grandchildren of the benefits of a stable and happy wife, mother and grandmother. For our family, this is what we needed to do.

Again, I do thank you for taking the time to show that you care.

How nice of you to take the time to keep us updated.

Everyone's path in life is different and unique. There is no "right" answer in life. You've found what works for you. Blessings and good luck to you.