Kits,
Yes, there is a Connecticut club and quite active I understand.
I am familiar with the Milford area as my family owned shoreline property on Silver Sands Beach.
I have a home North of you in the Hartford area.
As for missing your children and grands...not a problem. Just send them airline tickets and you'll be seeing them as often as you wish, also, you can include tickets to Disneyworld.
Welcome to the Villages.