[graciegirl]

We are taught to not act impulsively. We are taught to respond diplomatically. Some people can tell you to go to hell and make you look forward to the trip. I understand about being honest, but sometimes people say things that make people angry. They may not THINK that is what they are doing but others see it that way. So the responses are not quite honest, like..."Please shut up." They may be to change the subject, or try to explain without making it into a huge heated debate.


I think the problem lies with any of us believing that their way of looking at things is the right way, and trying to change someone else's mind...which is probably not going to happen.


It is trying to put yourself in another's shoes and after several rejections of our ideas, being mature enough to drop the subject. Some people can accept the fact that agreement is not possible and go on without feeling the person who debates them dislikes them personally. I think several posters have this ability. I try to do this and think this and fail regularly. We are all sensitive people. And we all have things that we believe that are dear to us.