[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by Bonanza

If there is such a thing as an angel, you certainly fit the bill. I read every one of your posts which was informative, but more than that, caring and filled with inner thoughts that make you a special person. There is a reserved spot in heaven for you!

Well, thank you kindly, but I hope I'm not going too soon???
When is that reservation???

Caring for an elder does age one fast, but if I had it to do all over again, I would do exactly the same, however......this time around I would skip* the time in the community care home (keeping her in our home longer than the six years) & just do the "end" stage in the skilled nursing home Alzheimers wing which was necessary because she became wheelchair bound. We have three levels in this home plus hilly lawns & terrain outdoors.

*I would get a home health aide into the home for the bathing.

The nurses, plus aides who fed & bathed Mom, were true angels of mercy.....I'll also never forget after she had passed, they wanted me to be in the room as they bathed her body one last time.


Her skin was pure white & pinkish like a little baby.
They truly took excellent care of her those last 18 months.
It showed. In our nursing home, only the gals who "requested" to work with the A.D. patients, were trained to do so.

One hears so many horror stories of putting a parent into a nursing home.....but living in a small town, where everyone knows each other, plus knows the doctors as neighbors, plus knows the nurses, etc., it's totally different. Plus, all of our friends & neighbors were going through the same thing as we were, in our 50's.

I miss her, every day. Only a mother's love (for her child, no matter what their age) is "unconditional". Once we lose our mother, that's it. Luckily I have a super great hubby. She loved him too. Just thinking, my mom moved NORTH to a cold climate & thrived until those latter years, passing at 91. We all have to go from something. My children always loved stopping at "Grandma's home" enroute home from school.........just food for thought.