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Originally Posted by blueash
I am sorry you are stressed and have a personal connection to this event. However, and I may be out of line, if I ask someone be quiet and then they go and post on TOTV that is the exact opposite of what I asked and I would never again trust them with any information. You are not privy to what happened as evidenced by your posting, the victim may well have asked for privacy, the police may have asked that no information be released while their investigation is ongoing or myriad other reasons. Do not be surprised if your friend is not so much your friend when this is done. Your need to be comfortable by going online is not the important need in this event. I suggest you go to your friend and apologize for not respecting the confidentiality of the information entrusted to you. Again I may be out of place, but I feel very strongly about issues of trust and confidentiality. It seems so often that people don't understand how destructive loose lips can be.
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1. Friends are not subject to HIPAA laws of privacy-confidentiality. Friendship is not a legal arrangement. It is a connection of hearts and minds.
2. Friends know their friend better than strangers reading here know that particular victim's view of confidentiality of things she said in a traumatized and possibly sedated state.
3. Friends use their better judgement to decide whether to remain silent and enable another home invasion and beating or rape, or to speak up so others don't meet the same fate.
4. A victimized friend in the hospital would deeply regret saying nothing or telling her friend to say nothing if the hearer or another woman in the vicinity were beaten, raped or killed by the same suspect on the loose.
5. The quote above is arrogant and condescending.