Misconceptions about gender issue
I had to leave the thread where I asked why it was important to know what gender someone is on this website. I found it amazing how misunderstood my intention was to start the thread. People seem to feel very free to read in their own interpretation. And then they believe it.
1) I actually thought Gracie's thread about gender was fun and that's why I participated in it.
2) I had hoped that my thread would be fun too, perhaps in a learning or self realization way. In other words, we might learn something about each other.
3) Solidarity is not necessarily bad, sinister or evil, it's just a fact, in my opinion.
So, again, what I wondered was why do we have to know what gender a person is in order to communicate with them?
Here's something I thought of later: There are many couples participating on this website. I don't suppose the husband would like it very much if his wife got chummy with another man or vice versa. So there are unofficial rules that I normally don't think of because I just don't think that way. I guess I go around thinking that it's all equal because it's just "talk". What could be more innocent than that? But evidently it's not innocent to some people.
That may be the reason some women feel the need to be upset, condescending, harassing or complaining. If the husband says anything, she can say, "I don't like him, I was telling him off!" Otherwise, why is it that some women never communicate with me unless there is something to complain about?
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