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Originally Posted by eweissenbach
over the last four years and 3443 posts! I've made several virtual friends and a few real life friends here. It has been fun for most of the five years, but not so much lately. I will check in from time to time, but for the most part I am going to spend my time with other interests. Danke, und Auf wiedersehen freundes!
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Your wisdom will be missed; enjoy your sabbatical or hiatus.
Return when you are refreshed ; when the bullying or negativity is a distant memory.
Many times when a person initiates a difficult attitude, they are trying to trigger a response from you. When we react, we are actually giving them what they want. To stop the cycle of negative back & forth; don’t bother responding.
Negative people can be a source of energy drain.
Deeply unhappy people will want to bring you down emotionally, so that they are not down there alone. Be aware of this.
Unless you have a lot of time on your hands and do not mind the energy drain, either develop a thick skin, or else, cut them off.
Cut them out by avoiding interactions with them as much as possible. Remember that you have the choice to commit to being surrounded by people who have the qualities you admire: optimistic, positive, peaceful and encouraging people.
I always can see both sides of every issue.....there is no "one way or the highway".......each person is coming from a totally different background, different perspective & different world view. Tolerance is a virtue.
The ones who bullied me over quite inconsequential things, like picking on my state, or perhaps deciding to be a snowbird rather than full time, are no longer a bother........they were a very very very small group, amongst the larger group of truly kindhearted ,magnanimous & helpful people on this forum.
For some people, it takes longer to reach a life changing conclusion.
Others, can change their lifestyle at the drop of a hat.
So, return when you are refreshed; you will be welcomed back by those who care.
The bullies will find another target when you are gone.
I just chalk it up to the fact that some are still back in Jr. High or Middle School as it is called today.......picking on the good ones, the kind ones, those on a quest for knowledge who perhaps take a bit longer at it than the ones who don't have to consider their long time marriage partner or family dynamics........or giving up the family home which has so many memories (or giving it up at a less than optimal return).
Also keep in mind, that at our age, 70 plus, or even younger, many are in the beginning stages of Alzheimers or dementia when belligerence is so prevalent (even their own families do not recognize their personality changes at first)........but someone who is constantly ticked off by another viewpoint or just has a belligerent nature.......might be suffering on the inside with no other way to express it than to "vent" at a stranger, a faceless person on the computer screen.
God Speed. Enjoy your sabbatical.
Danke, und Auf wiedersehen
I should learn some German as now we have six grandchildren.......with roots back to Bavaria & also Baden Baden Germany.