To the SINGLES out there in TOTV land...May I have your attention?

[katerogers]

It may be my imagination, but, it seems that our Meet and Greet Singles movement on TOTV, as well as our usual entertaining Singles threads, have slowed to a snails pace. Where once we enjoyed daily posts about our special issues, and any given day one of us had something planned for the week to get our singles community together - especially, encouraging the new singles to join in - there are now days that go by without a single new post.

Of course, I am just as guilty of not participating the way I used to - getting too wrapped up in the horror, that is my home renovations, but, I realize that where once the singles community was there for me, when I first arrived, I haven't been very good at reciprocating, lately.

So, I'm hoping with this little kick in the pants, for all of us, we can once again be the voice of singles in the Villages and maybe all of those who have lost interest may, once again, add their collective opinions to this site.

It would be great if we got our Meet and Greet group animated again by pushing away from our televisions and internet dating sites - or what ever you are doing on the internet that you won't admit to and, yes, even a golf game or two - to attend Karen's St Patricks Day party on March 15th. We always have a lot of fun playing games (even those who say they're bad at it). So those of you who came to our parties in the past, but, have lately been a no-show...show

And for you NEW SINGLES to the Villages, we know how hard it is to take that first step to making friends, but, take it from someone who went through it. You may walk into our group as a stranger, but, you'll walk out with a bunch of great friends. It's a phenomenon that I wouldn't have believed possible, if it weren't for the fact that it happened to me.

So what do you say PARTY POOPERS? Let's make this next Meet and Greet party the best yet! Oh, and let's get some titillating and thought provoking threads going on TOTV, it's better than Luminosity to get those gears going.



Katie

[chachacha]

would like to mention a fun activity that we are enjoying because of our katie...with years of teaching acting and improv under her belt, katie has started an improv class on the 2nd and 4th sunday evening of the month at Lake Miona Rec center, 6pm. the next class is set for march 23. i plan to post about this in the Clubs forum, too. come out and have fun learning to improvise responses in funny situations. maybe we can do a practice run at karen's sat night :)

[Bonnevie]

I can't make Karen's party, but the improve sounds like fun. I put it on my calendar for the 23rd.

[redwitch]

I know this will probably sound mean and petty, but why have a party on the same night as another TOTV get together (the dance club started by Doug and Pammy)? This just seems to make no sense to me.

Personally, I don't really feel comfortable at the idea of just singles. I'd prefer to see any and all events open to whoever wants to come. Whether the intent is there or not, it sounds like folks are there to hook up more than to get together. (It didn't at first, but lately that has been my feeling.)

[TVMayor]

I know this will probably sound mean and petty, but why have a party on the same night as another TOTV get together (the dance club started by Doug and Pammy)? This just seems to make no sense to me.

Personally, I don't really feel comfortable at the idea of just singles. I'd prefer to see any and all events open to whoever wants to come. Whether the intent is there or not, it sounds like folks are there to hook up more than to get together. (It didn't at first, but lately that has been my feeling.)
And I think the women’s club should invite men and the Republicans should invite Democrats and the Michigan Yoopers should invite Detroiters and the gay club should invite straights. Not really.

[gerryann]

And the dog lovers invite the non dog lovers.......YIKES

[KathieI]

(edited...)

Personally, I don't really feel comfortable at the idea of just singles. I'd prefer to see any and all events open to whoever wants to come. Whether the intent is there or not, it sounds like folks are there to hook up more than to get together. (It didn't at first, but lately that has been my feeling.)

I agree. To me it would be more fun to open up the invites to fun people, whether married or single.. I like to be around everyone, not just single people. JMHO.

[TVMayor]

Then we have the singles group called “The Single Baby Boomers Group” they say you must be born between 1946-1964. HELLO!

[2BNTV]

Then we have the singles group called “The Single Baby Boomers Group” they say you must be born between 1946-1964. HELLO!

Some people don't qualify as I was born in 1944. :(

Maybe Groucho was right, in that he said, "he didn't want to belong to a club, that would have him, as a member". :D

Seriously, it would have been nice if these two events didn't conflict.

I'll see you Karen, after "The Happy Hour" event. :smiley:

Maybe more people need to volunteer their houses, and there will be, more frequent gathering times. HINT! HINT!!!!

BTW - It is a nice way to meet people and maybe should be open to all, but nobody is looking to jump, on someone's bones. IMHO

I will have my next party in April, as I hope my last project, is finished.

[Baileysmom]

I know this will probably sound mean and petty, but why have a party on the same night as another TOTV get together (the dance club started by Doug and Pammy)? This just seems to make no sense to me.

Personally, I don't really feel comfortable at the idea of just singles. I'd prefer to see any and all events open to whoever wants to come. Whether the intent is there or not, it sounds like folks are there to hook up more than to get together. (It didn't at first, but lately that has been my feeling.)

I agree with you Dee, the last time Doug and Pam organized a TOTV Happy Hour there was a singles event on the same night as well. It was great that many of the singles came out to Hacienda then attended the singles gathering in Brownwood. All are welcome to Captiva Rec center this Saturday to see and hear Vinyl Recall perform. I can't wait to here Pam sing more than one song like she is confined to with the Beatlemanics. Hope to see many of you there. Have fun whatever you choose to do.

[kittygilchrist]

Oh Joe, I'll be so happy for another party at your place and have enjoyed it as your place comes together....I'll keep your secrets about what you've done till you host another party.

I echo and magnify what Kate said about finding genuine friends so easily. It is amazing to get so close so quickly.
The friends I've met through the parties and gatherings we have had as singles has met my needs as a newcomer beyond anything I could have imagined.

Many of you still want to host a party and will do that in good time. It's wonderful when your friends come--and we will-- and are eager to see where you live and enjoy your space with you. That spontaneous energy of sharing home is what drives the Meet and Greet Unclub, and we have some people waiting for a right time to host their party. So don't wait to post your party. First dibs and nobody's in charge.

From the start this group has been a collection of anyone single who wanted to come to an event. There have been hits on TOTV from married people who want to be single, and that has not been welcomed for obvious reasons.

though Cha and Katie and I did bump it to life, none of us want to make it a top down structure, but to leave everything arranged open to all the people enjoying it. We just bump it now and then to keep ya'll bringing on the energy.
Kitty
ps
Ron was the latest to have a party. His place is sooo peaceful. I loved it.

[kittygilchrist]

I agree with you Dee, the last time Doug and Pam organized a TOTV Happy Hour there was a singles event on the same night as well. It was great that many of the singles came out to Hacienda then attended the singles gathering in Brownwood. All are welcome to Captiva Rec center this Saturday to see and hear Vinyl Recall perform. I can't wait to here Pam sing more than one song like she is confined to with the Beatlemanics. Hope to see many of you there. Have fun whatever you choose to do.

I truly do not see any reason the singles needed to clear any parties with other parties, single or not. If you can make a logical case to me, please do, however, for myself, I'm a fan of Pammy and Doug, so will go have fun with them before the Karen party March 15.

Maybe you should pm if you have issues with two parties the same night. It just seems like too many people at 100k plus for one party.

[DianeM]

I'm with the "can't we be friends with married and single people " I feel as if I'm supposed to wear a scarlet S on my chest. I have single and married friends and hang with both.

[Down Sized]

I'm wondering why all you singles don't join the Single Baby Boomers? There are over 600 in the club. They have activities everyday. Why swim against the stream or try to reinvent the WHEEL? :shocked:

[KathieI]

Some people don't qualify as I was born in 1944. :(



As Joe said, some of us don't qualify for Single Baby Boomers.. I know I don't!!

[Down Sized]

As Joe said, some of us don't qualify for Single Baby Boomers.. I know I don't!!

Then join the Sumter Singles. This club is for the elder singles.

[manaboutown]

I'm wondering why all you singles don't join the Single Baby Boomers? There are over 600 in the club. They have activities everyday. Why swim against the stream or try to reinvent the WHEEL?
__________________
Then join the Sumter Singles. This club is for the elder singles.

You are not single, are you?

[Down Sized]

I'm wondering why all you singles don't join the Single Baby Boomers? There are over 600 in the club. They have activities everyday. Why swim against the stream or try to reinvent the WHEEL?
__________________


You are not single, are you?

Yes I am. Belong to SBB like 599 others. Many many activities everyday.

[manaboutown]

Perhaps some people prefer socializing in smaller groups.

[kittygilchrist]

If not for the previous posters, I could not have imagined there would be single people who prefer to hang out with married people who would NOT be ok with single people hanging out with single people.
I just never thought of that.

[Down Sized]

And how is this working for all of you. From this thread, maybe not so well.

[kittygilchrist]

Yes I am. Belong to SBB like 599 others. Many many activities everyday.

Well, yeah, but then, there are my real friends. That's different.

[chachacha]

yes, those on this forum generally prefer to socialize in small groups at each other's homes or to attend some function together with friends. no one checks the schedule of what else is going on in the villages before inviting their friends over...those who prefer to socialize with married friends are totally free to do so and of course all of us have married friends as well, but this forum is for singles who want to socialize with other singles and who want to offer a welcome to the newcomers who come here alone and need friends, as we all have done at one time or another. no one is forced to read this forum or to participate in our activities. SO BUG OFF!!

[kittygilchrist]

And how is this working for all of you. From this thread, maybe not so well.

see following post....

[kittygilchrist]

And how is this working for all of you. From this thread, maybe not so well.

Down sized, it would be nice to meet you personally and join the big group opportunities! Let me know when your next group meeting will happen, and contact me by pm anytime. There are many activities, especially those outdoors, that I would enjoy sharing with singles. Thanks for posting your connection with singles groups so freely.
Kitty

[katerogers]

Wow! I don't know which post I feel obligated to respond to first. But, I will say that I'm thrilled that, if nothing else, there is some debate going on. I love it, whether I agree with the comments or not.

As to why, as singles, we seek out our own company on occasion...Let's face it, the Villages is a couples oriented community. As singles we are definitely in the minority. So, there are times when we would like to socialize with other singles who have the same issues as we do.

The Meet and Greet group is absolutely not geared toward match making. To the contrary. We are just a bunch of single people who would rather hang out together, as friends, to enjoy the activities that are here in the Villages. When you're a couple you always have someone to go with. As a single, it's not easy to walk into any place alone. Through this group, I have been able to call a friend to go with me and if it happens to be a male friend it's with no strings attached. It's wonderful to have that ability. This is especially true for the new singles to the Villages.

As to why these get togethers are aimed at the single community, again, we are hoping to increase our circle of single friends for the very reasons I mentioned. Heaven knows there are a gazillion events and social activities that couples get to enjoy that we aren't comfortable attending alone...

In regard to the comments about why we don't just join the organized single groups, I don't even understand the point that's being made. For some of us any club with 600 members doesn't provide us with the kind of intimate (and by that I mean small) setting, that makes it easier to get to know each other. That being said, most of us belong to the Meet and Greet unclub, as well as the Baby Boomers, Sumter Singles or the Village Singles. Each provides something different.

As for why this party happened to be scheduled on the same night as the TOTV is set to meet, come one...there are always events happening simultaneously in the Villages. In the case of Karen's party, it was scheduled over a month ago.

I think that covers my point counter point...only an opinion, mind you, but isn't it great that we all have one.

P.S. If any married Villager's want to come to our parties - though I can't imagine why you would - you'd be welcome. I'm sure one of your single friends will give you the secret handshake to get in.

Katie

[quirky3]

Kitty and Cha have a great point - these are all posted in the Singles Forum.

Married people really have no need to read that at all. There are plenty of couples-only ("Partner required" dancing, sports events, etc.) events that singles can't attend. And plenty of other Forums and threads on TOTV for non-single people to read.

I am encouraged to see the coming together of single people on TOTV, and don't want to see it unnecessarily discouraged by married people. Seriously!?!

[Rgraves]

I so rarely post on TOTV, HOWEVER, are you kidding me?!?!?! First of all, MARRIED FOLK, what are you doing reading the singles' threads? Bored are you? Or unhappy? Or just nosey? To all those who posted sharing info on other singles groups, Baby Boomers, etc., I learned of those groups when I first moved here less than a year ago. However, I thought then and still do that gatherings of 20 or so people was also a nice way of getting to know other singles and chose to go that route rather than groups of 600+. As for conflicting dates, this is absolutely laughable.....are we expected to change our birthdays so as not to conflict with the Underwater Basket Weavers get-together??? There are so many activities & social events here in the Villages that by the time I (we) would clear a date, we'd be too old to party!! To the person who made the comment about "hooking up", I personally rate you as either (1) extremely stupid, (2) extremely naive, or (3) down right ugly!!

[redwitch]

Since I was the one who started the brouhaha, here's my take. Conflict with Villages' events? No problem -- do what you want. But to schedule an event that directly conflicts with what is pretty much a TOTV event makes no sense. It forces your friends to choose or, like Joe, rush from one to the other. That, to me, is not what you do (and since the dance get together is at a rec center, we all know when it is ahead of time but the dancing was posted first). It wouldn't have been that hard to schedule it for the following weekend or, given that the majority are retired, to actually celebrate on St. Paddy's Day itself.

I do believe that for some like Kitty, it is a way to make single friends, to have things to do together. However, I'm seeing more and more comments that imply the desire to hook up. And I am definitely not stupid nor naive. I'd like to think I'm not ugly, but whatever.

What I would have liked to see is that things like game parties would be open to all non-couples. So, if someone is married but their spouse hates games, they would feel as welcome as a single.

[quirky3]

Wow. I just don't see what you see, period. And I've been there. You can take my word or not.

Here's an idea - when all of you TOTV married people schedule your next small gathering, make a point of inviting TOTV singles.

[chachacha]

i agree with quirky. i was not aware of pam and doug's party (i went to the last one) and am sure many of us were not...if they would just drop a note on the singles forum next time they set a date, i am sure we would all love to meet other TOTVers...i don't have time nor desire to read every post on these threads!!! life is too short!

[redwitch]

Wow. I just don't see what you see, period. And I've been there. You can take my word or not.

Here's an idea - when all of you TOTV married people schedule your next small gathering, make a point of inviting TOTV singles.

Love the idea of the married folks inviting TOTV singles, too.

[chachacha]

dee, one has to be realistic about the space available, also....as with any home party, most would have to limit to about 25-30 people or fewer for things like movie nights, etc...so inviting our married friends, although pleasant, would squeeze out some of the singles who are reticent to come in the first place in some situations. (newly widowed, etc) i think our group provides a valuable support to many singles and would not like to see it destroyed by comments from some who do not really attend or participate. why don't you come some time and get a first-hand view? would love to see you!! :)

[misky]

dee, one has to be realistic about the space available, also....as with any home party, most would have to limit to about 25-30 people or fewer for things like movie nights, etc...so inviting our married friends, although pleasant, would squeeze out some of the singles who are reticent to come in the first place in some situations. (newly widowed, etc) i think our group provides a valuable support to many singles and would not like to see it destroyed by comments from some who do not really attend or participate. why don't you come some time and get a first-hand view? would love to see you!! :)

Well said, Cha. I belong to the SBB and the Singles Unclub (love the that term, Kitty). NEVER have I felt like any event was for hooking up. None if us were born in TV. We all have left our freinds elsewhere and it's comforting to know there are other singles that are going through the same thing. Events overlap. Who cares. I'm greatfull that there are events to go to. Back home I might just be watching tv. Now I have multiple events to go to. Go Singles!

[Rgraves]

Very well said!!!

[katerogers]

I hope the 1400 plus people who have read our thread so far include some of the new singles to the Villages. We really want to encourage you to join us for Karen's party on Saturday and get you on your way to making friends here. If you need the address just look for the party post and then send a private message to Karen for directions to her house.

See you there!

Katie

[redwitch]

And for those who might think I was trying to put anyone down, I wasn't. I know many of the folks who go to this and they really are a great group. I was just upset that it conflicted with the dancing and have never been known for my tact.

So, newbies, don't hesitate. You'll have a great time and have a chance to meet some really wonderful people.

[karengfw]

So, here I am checking questions about Game Night at Karen's on March 15, and I don't really want anyone to feel left out or miss it cuz of other plans. But, a party is what it is, come or not and if you'd rather dance, don't come, DUH. :agree: But some of us enjoy house parties cuz it can be easier to get some conversations going than in loud sweaty clubs and all. Me, I like house parties and so I thought I'd host another one. BTW, if I was dating someone, I'd probably opt for the dance... And it's for singles to keep my 40-50 neighbors from coming like they did on NewYear's (LOL:-) - so if you'd like the option to talk with other "single" Villagers, please PM me for the address, bring your libations and dish/snack tray to share and we will have a few fun games, some musack and pleasant conversations with other "singles".

Hope to keep this party UNDER 60 people this time and those of you who have been here understand why, since I didn't ask for RSVP's I am crossing my fingers that any overage will stay outdoors with the boom box and I hope it's warm enough...

I think we will have LOTS o' FUN and POTS o' GOLD (well, maybe not gold... :-):a040::a040:

[simpkinp]

I feel compelled to respond. The Villages is a couples world and I am single. So are my girlfriends, and we look for opportunities to socialize with other singles to talk and discuss our issues, and support each other. A lot of the so called "Singles Clubs" are full of couples who happen to be single. For some strange reason after finding a companion they still attend the singles clubs, am I right here guys? Have you had this experience? I am not looking to hook up, but to find friends in like circumstances. There is no master calendar for TOTV out there, so multiple activities on some nights are inevitable. We only have seven days a week, and 365 a year. If it is listed for singles, it should not be a problem.

[maybe]

I know this will probably sound mean and petty, but why have a party on the same night as another TOTV get together (the dance club started by Doug and Pammy)? This just seems to make no sense to me.

Personally, I don't really feel comfortable at the idea of just singles. I'd prefer to see any and all events open to whoever wants to come. Whether the intent is there or not, it sounds like folks are there to hook up more than to get together. (It didn't at first, but lately that has been my feeling.)

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I just checked the Singles forum list of threads and I do not see any thread mentioning any "get together" on March 15 by a Doug and Pammy. I do not recall hearing about it. I still know nothing about it other than it apparently will have dancing! Is it there under a title that does not reveal its nature? When I schedule a party for my house, I assume I will have checked the Singles forum for other parties on a possible date, to avoid a conflict, but that would be about all I'd check. As for married folks not being invited, some married people have attended some of the informal singles parties. I had been thinking of maybe inviting my married next door neighbors to mine, and I doubt my single friends would mind much if I did, but on the other hand, the posted arguments for singles-only have merit.

AS for any alleged "hooking up", if the current younger folks meaning of that was intended, i.e., meeting for immediate sex and only sex, I somehow I missed those parties. Someone please post about the next one so I can be sure to make, er... I mean avoid it.

[chachacha]

Lol!

[DougB]

Don't forget, the next TOTV "Let's Not Keep Happy to an Hour" get together is set for March 15th. Mark your calendars! You ain't gonna want to miss this one. Details to come! All singles, couples, threesomes, whatever are invited.



Ok, I am not single so I do not read the "Singles Forum". I am posting here because a friend PMed me and told me where this thread was going. As you can see by the above quote that I posted on Joe's TOTV Crisper's thread WAY BACK on FEB. 14, singles were invited, as well as couples, and for all I care threesomes. ALL were invited. Pam and I would never exclude anyone. Why would I post it on the "Singles Forum" anymore than the Crisper's invites aren't?
It's not a singles' event. It's not a couples' event. It is a TOTV Happy Hour event. We have never posted any of the "Lets Not Keep Happy to An Hour" get togethers anywhere but in general discussion for all of TOTV.
For those who come to the Happy Hour, we will have a great time! For those who go to the Game Night, you will have a
great time! It's not a competition! Surely, you don't believe these are the only things going on March 15. life is full of choices.

Note to myself: Send special invite to those who "don't have time nor desire to read every post on these threads!!! life is too short". :)

:)

[2BNTV]

Ok, I am not single so I do not read the "Singles Forum". I am posting here because a friend PMed me and told me where this thread was going. As you can see by the above quote that I posted on Joe's TOTV Crisper's thread WAY BACK on FEB. 14, singles were invited, as well as couples, and for all I care threesomes. ALL were invited. Pam and I would never exclude anyone. Why would I post it on the "Singles Forum" anymore than the Crisper's invites aren't?
It's not a singles' event. It's not a couples' event. It is a TOTV Happy Hour event. We have never posted any of the "Lets Not Keep Happy to An Hour" get togethers anywhere but in general discussion for all of TOTV.
For those who come to the Happy Hour, we will have a great time! For those who go to the Game Night, you will have a
great time! It's not a competition! Surely, you don't believe these are the only things going on March 15. life is full of choices.

Note to myself: Send special invite to those who "don't have time nor desire to read every post on these threads!!! life is too short". :)

:)

:agree: "life is too short, to be, too little".

One of the rare coflicts, when it comes to parties, for singles. We all consider ourselves to be lucky, to have more than pne event to go to.

I have decided to go to THe Happy Hour dance to hear Pam sing. She is very good.

If this happened to me, I would consider moving my date for a party, but that's just me. :smiley:

[kittygilchrist]

:agree: "life is too short, to be, too little".

One of the rare coflicts, when it comes to parties, for singles. We all consider ourselves to be lucky, to have more than pne event to go to.

I have decided to go to THe Happy Hour dance to hear Pam sing. She is very good.

If this happened to me, I would consider moving my date for a party, but that's just me. :smiley:
The dance event is the opening of a new club with $5 entry. I'm not sure how plainly this was put forth, since it was called a TOTV happy hour originally. It is advertised as Saturday Night Dance club, without reference to totv, and will doubtless be great fun and a good venue for the band.

This thread has produced misunderstandings about what the Meet and Greet Unclub is about, who is married, who's naughty and nice....about people I know to be good folks (like Dee and Doug and Ronnye)...

As to the question whether anyone has an obligation to arrange their party based on what another club or Unclub is doing, it would require one to predict everyone else's intentions before determining their own, and that is simply not possible.

[maybe]

Ok, I am not single so I do not read the "Singles Forum". I am posting here because a friend PMed me and told me where this thread was going. As you can see by the above quote that I posted on Joe's TOTV Crisper's thread WAY BACK on FEB. 14, singles were invited, as well as couples, and for all I care threesomes. ALL were invited. Pam and I would never exclude anyone. Why would I post it on the "Singles Forum" anymore than the Crisper's invites aren't?
It's not a singles' event. It's not a couples' event. It is a TOTV Happy Hour event. We have never posted any of the "Lets Not Keep Happy to An Hour" get togethers anywhere but in general discussion for all of TOTV.
For those who come to the Happy Hour, we will have a great time! For those who go to the Game Night, you will have a
great time! It's not a competition! Surely, you don't believe these are the only things going on March 15. life is full of choices.

Note to myself: Send special invite to those who "don't have time nor desire to read every post on these threads!!! life is too short". :)

:)
--------------Doug

There is no obligation to post notice of such an event in the singles forum, or any other forum for that matter. The post I had responded to had asked why would someone schedule a party on a date on which another event had already been scheduled. I simply answered that question as best I could, which was to say because the other event had not been posted with its own thread in the singles forum, and I, and I assume some others, do not read many forums. Now I will also add that the nature of the event, and the targeted populations, are different enough that even if Karen had known of it, I join with you in seeing nothing wrong with scheduling the singles party on the same date. I do highly recommend that notice of any event be given its own thread, with an informative title such as "Hookup Mixer, April 1, 7PM, SE corner of Sumter Square". :laugh:

[TVMayor]

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[KathieI]

I believe a lot of this confusion has to do with NOT STAYING ON TOPIC???? If you remember, I was confused between the Saturday Night Dance and the event to hear PammyJ sing. I asked that someone clear it up and/or start a new thread because I was confused (which isn't hard to do) and some others might be confused also. DougB answered me and cleared it up for me but I'm not sure if it was ever put under a separate thread.

I have observed of late, that a LOT of topic highjacking is being done and for people like me, who are not on the forum all day long and who just hunt and peck through the topics I might be interested in, that it is so hard to keep up with what's being said.

Let's make a deal,,, let's curtail some of the highjacking and see if we can't stay on topic... ??? Whatcha think?? Or else, you-know-who will be coming around to visit... the topic cop. :police:

[katerogers]

I think this poor dead horse has been beaten enough. What say we try to lend our collective voices to other subjects?

Katie

[KathieI]

I think this poor dead horse has been beaten enough. What say we try to lend our collective voices to other subjects?

Katie

:agree:

[kittygilchrist]

:0000000000luvmyhorsWait, I want to smack him another time. He loves me when I beat him.

[2BNTV]

LET IT BE. :popcorn:

[Buffalo Jim]

:0000000000luvmyhorsWait, I want to smack him another time. He loves me when I beat him.

Ha-Ha ! Good one Kitty !!

I grew dizzy trying to follow this thread . But then again ..............

[karengfw]

to anyone who thinks our singles parties are hookup mixers - that is SO OFFENSIVE, I'm almost ready to cancel my party. I'm done reading this forum. I may never post or read this again...:swear:

[In awe of TV]

If a group of singles want to have a party, why on earth does the host or hostess have to check with anyone or another entity if there is another event taking place on that date? If you can't attend the party, you'll attend the next one. It happens everywhere, not only in TV. It's your choice, plan which event you want to attend and plan accordingly. Geesh, y'all are acting like children and it's ridiculous.

And, if only single people are invited, who cares?? If certain people have a problem with a singles only party, tough luck - host your own party!

As far as insinuating that it's a hook up party - shame, shame, shame on you! Get your mind out of the gutter and get a life!

Karen - have your party, invite whoever you want, have a wonderful time and party on! I wish I was there to join you.

[quirky3]

Karen, please don't let it get to you! The laughable "hook-up" remarks were made by someone who never attended one of the events, and offered no facts of any kind to back it up.
In the meantime, it's Saturday 3/15 and life is good!

p.s. The worst thing that could happen in response to brainless comments is to give up your friends and social life. Who wins in that case? "We are family, I got all my singles and me!"

[quirky3]

I dislike these completely unfounded allegations about TOTV singles. Happily the group is a fine one and prospers well together.

[katerogers]

I just got home from Karen's party and it was a blast! Thank you Karen for all the food and fun. I couldn't possibly name everyone who came, but, suffice it to say this thread was the topic of conversation with every person there. We managed to laugh about the absurdity of the 'hooking up' remark...well, all the negative remarks really. Now, we would rather just put the whole matter behind us.

I have made so many great friends through this 'unclub' of singles, I really hope it will just keep growing, so I can make even more. So, those of you who are new to the Villages, or you have yet to join us, try to ignore what you may have read here and keep watching TOTV for news about the next get together one of our 'unmembers' is organizing.

Katie

[ConeyIsBabe]

Wow! I don't know which post I feel obligated to respond to first. But, I will say that I'm thrilled that, if nothing else, there is some debate going on. I love it, whether I agree with the comments or not.

As to why, as singles, we seek out our own company on occasion...Let's face it, the Villages is a couples oriented community. As singles we are definitely in the minority. So, there are times when we would like to socialize with other singles who have the same issues as we do.

The Meet and Greet group is absolutely not geared toward match making. To the contrary. We are just a bunch of single people who would rather hang out together, as friends, to enjoy the activities that are here in the Villages. When you're a couple you always have someone to go with. As a single, it's not easy to walk into any place alone. Through this group, I have been able to call a friend to go with me and if it happens to be a male friend it's with no strings attached. It's wonderful to have that ability. This is especially true for the new singles to the Villages.

As to why these get togethers are aimed at the single community, again, we are hoping to increase our circle of single friends for the very reasons I mentioned. Heaven knows there are a gazillion events and social activities that couples get to enjoy that we aren't comfortable attending alone...

In regard to the comments about why we don't just join the organized single groups, I don't even understand the point that's being made. For some of us any club with 600 members doesn't provide us with the kind of intimate (and by that I mean small) setting, that makes it easier to get to know each other. That being said, most of us belong to the Meet and Greet unclub, as well as the Baby Boomers, Sumter Singles or the Village Singles. Each provides something different.

As for why this party happened to be scheduled on the same night as the TOTV is set to meet, come one...there are always events happening simultaneously in the Villages. In the case of Karen's party, it was scheduled over a month ago.

I think that covers my point counter point...only an opinion, mind you, but isn't it great that we all have one.

P.S. If any married Villager's want to come to our parties - though I can't imagine why you would - you'd be welcome. I'm sure one of your single friends will give you the secret handshake to get in.

Katie

Well said Katie !

Speaking for myself only, as the Still-TV-Wannabee-Someday, a single lady who is honestly intimidated by walking into a room of hundreds of others who mostly already know each other. It is so comforting to me to know that I would have the opportunity to meet other singles who share and understand my lifestyle in a small venue where we can really get to know each other. I hope when my time comes there will still be the Singles Meet & Greet.

[maybe]

"I hope when my time comes there will still be the Singles Meet & Greet."
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Hey, not to worry! Even if it died out, all it would take is one new thread by you to get it started again. That is how chachacha or Kitty, or whoever started it initially, did it. No magic formula required.

[chachacha]

hey, rosa robin, nice to see you posting here again! why don't you at least come for a vacation! let us hear from you more often!

[luvthevillages2014]

lol

[ConeyIsBabe]

hey, rosa robin, nice to see you posting here again! why don't you at least come for a vacation! let us hear from you more often!

I'm working on it; thanks for remembering me :D

[karengfw]

I just got home from Karen's party and it was a blast! Thank you Karen for all the food and fun. I couldn't possibly name everyone who came, but, suffice it to say this thread was the topic of conversation with every person there. We managed to laugh about the absurdity of the 'hooking up' remark...well, all the negative remarks really. Now, we would rather just put the whole matter behind us.

I have made so many great friends through this 'unclub' of singles, I really hope it will just keep growing, so I can make even more. So, those of you who are new to the Villages, or you have yet to join us, try to ignore what you may have read here and keep watching TOTV for news about the next get together one of our 'unmembers' is organizing.

Katie

OK, I am sorry - Sunday is not on my radar to party and I gardened, fixed sprinklers and ran errands most all day and then realized I coulda gone to the SURPRISE SO LONG KATE Party, but I am not there and want Kate and all the rest of you to know I will also miss Katie and hope you surprise her and you all have lotsa FUN! But I have Katie's email and will send her a personal msg and hope we keep in touch while she is "up South" with her family :-)
-Love to Katie! From: Karen Sue

[chachacha]

and i still have your tupperware, karen! :) sorry you were not there...so many of us are really sad to see katie go away! but at least we sent her off in style..i think ken will post some photos!