Anxiety needing psychiatric referrals

[jdsl1998]

In January, we retired one day, packed up the truck the next day and moved to The Villages. All good right!! But, my anxiety levels have sky rocketed. Not sleeping & I'm over come with unrealistic fears. Upon reading the internet, I've found that all this freedom, we so wanted, can trigger this response. I've decided I need to see a psychiatrist to see if I can find a remedy to get over this hump and see retirement in a healthy way. I called my doctor down here and she set my up with a psychiatrist today. I just looked him up and he has terrible ratings. I'm hoping one of you has had an experience with a doctor and could share his/her name with me. I'm willing to drive a bit, if need be. Thanks.
I am on Florida Blue insurance.

[graciegirl]

In January, we retired one day, packed up the truck the next day and moved to The Villages. All good right!! But, my anxiety levels have sky rocketed. Not sleeping & I'm over come with unrealistic fears. Upon reading the internet, I've found that all this freedom, we so wanted, can trigger this response. I've decided I need to see a psychiatrist to see if I can find a remedy to get over this hump and see retirement in a healthy way. I called my doctor down here and she set my up with a psychiatrist today. I just looked him up and he has terrible ratings. I'm hoping one of you has had an experience with a doctor and could share his/her name with me. I'm willing to drive a bit, if need be. Thanks.
I am on Florida Blue insurance.



Do you feel like harming yourself? There are many here who care that you don't and you will be feeling better.

[KathieI]

How about some good 'GIRLFRIEND' time???? Why don't we have lunch. I can offer some good advice one-on-one since I've been in therapy more than 1/2 my life.... lol... maybe I'm crazier than I think? hahahaha!! Call me you have my number!!!

[jdsl1998]

No, Gracie, I'm not any place that would be harmful to myself. But, thanks for asking. I know "this too shall pass", just never thought it would happen in this wonderful time in my life..with no explanation or apparent reason.
KathieI, thanks for the information. I will not be on the grid for the next day or two, but, I will get back with you. You may have hit the nail on the head!!
I cannot thank you both enough....

[marianne237]

Please be assured you're not alone. I'm sure that any number of folks (probably more ladies than gents) admit to the anxiety buttons being pushed with the move. It's happened to many of us and having lunch with a girlfriend (new or old) helps. If Kathy is willing to share the table, I'll join you.

[Bizdoc]

Dr Dada at Lifestream is pretty good. He splits his time between a couple of clinics, but part of it is at Colony Counseling (near Villages Health Colony clinic. They have a 24 hour hot line at 866-355-9394. That same number will, if memory serves me, connect you to their screening person who will talk with you before scheduling you. Be honest with them about how anxious you feel - if you minimize, you will move down the priority list.

In the mean time, there are lots and lots of good people on TOTV. PM the ladies above and have coffee with them. If nothing else, you'll know that others care.

[graciegirl]

I have big comfy chairs and couches and a warm heart. My door is always open. I usually have something sweet to eat and in person I usually listen more than I talk. You are always welcome.

[tippyclubb]

Sending big hugs your way and hope you find a doctor quickly that can help you with your anxiety. I'm sorry this has happened to you but somehow it will all work out.

Good luck to you.

[Neal2tire]

Helen Schuster in Leesburg.

[kittygilchrist]

Plants have transplant shock. So do we. Been there, got pills in the drawer from the ordeal. don't need them now. LMK if I can help. It takes courage to talk about it and most people suffer quietly. oohrah for your humility.

I'd prefer to discuss by email if you care to pm me. thanks for shouting out that you hurt.

[katyk]

There are such wonderful, kind people on TOTV. There will always be someone who will understand. Reach out to any of us and we will be there for you. It is always stressful going through any kind of major life change-even good changes. Hang in there and do get together with any or all of these ladies.

[kittygilchrist]

p.s. my animals regressed too...it's NORMAL. I comforted a new friend today whose lifestyle and location changed in a flash and who wondered aloud why she wasn't out having fun.

the answer is that now nothing is familiar, you look in the mirror and ask yourself, "who am I"?, the energies you used to command don't know what to do, and panic from anxiety....sent me to the hospital for a heart check.

[B767drvr]

I have big comfy chairs and couches and a warm heart. My door is always open. I usually have something sweet to eat and in person I usually listen more than I talk. You are always welcome.

I don't post very often, and have had one run-in with Gracie… my fault in retrospect (think I misinterpreted her thoughts in the written format). But, truth be told, I think she is one of the most kind, gentle, sweet and GENUINE ladies anywhere!

PLEASE consider taking her up on her offer. If for nothing else, I'm sure you'll spend a night with a sweet, gentle, and terrific woman and her husband.

[Bonnevie]

I'd love to join you all for lunch. I, too, felt the same way. When I had my first visit with dr. here he remarked how stressed I was. I said, "because I think I should be doing something every minute....and there's something to do every minute!" Now I try to pick and choose and realize everything doesn't need to be done at once but I still have moments....let's lunch and talk it out.

[doran]

Would love to join the girls for lunch as well--I have a husband with deep medical issues and I also need some girl friends to get together with

Susan Doran 352-633-8185

[kittygilchrist]

Dr Dada at Lifestream is pretty good. He splits his time between a couple of clinics, but part of it is at Colony Counseling (near Villages Health Colony clinic. They have a 24 hour hot line at 866-355-9394. That same number will, if memory serves me, connect you to their screening person who will talk with you before scheduling you. Be honest with them about how anxious you feel - if you minimize, you will move down the priority list.

In the mean time, there are lots and lots of good people on TOTV. PM the ladies above and have coffee with them. If nothing else, you'll know that others care.

mmm, I'd keep looking if I were the op. been there....

[kittygilchrist]

Lunch organized by Kathi for all of us. I'm in. snicker...is this how we roll on this, kathi? I'm not sure, seemed like a snowball thing happened. i like it.

[Erijo]

I too am having a hard time adjusting. I was working full time one day and the next I was retired and moving away from my home of 34 years , my girls and my miracle grandson, my sisters and my mother. I pretty much identified my self by my profession. I know I am not the first woman to work my whole life, but I am having a hard time. I keep being told, this too shall pass. Everyone goes thru this adjustment. Some days I look in the mirror and ask myself, who are you and how did you get to be your mothers age? I will survive! LOL. Hang in there. I think there should be a club for women that are in shock that now they are retired and moved to TV, this way we know we are not alone in our feelings.

[Suzi]

I was you about a year ago. Worked so hard to break the glass ceiling that I didn't know what I would do with this retirement. I was very concerned that "just doing fun things" would be so frivolous compared to what I did during my working years. I wrote on TOTV and met a couple of women for lunch. I was still concerned so I did take a couple of TOTV suggestions.....and they worked:
1st No matter what I had to do in the home to organize, I took time everyday to go out and do something "I" wanted to do.....something fun. I met a large amount of very friendly women. They wanted to know where I was from, but not what I did so I could maintain anonymity. I began to "think" like a regular person and not the high-powered exec I was at work. No pretenses, no expectations. In my mind it started out like a game - one in which no one knew who or what I was......and then it became "normal".
2nd I took my time to do things. I didn't rush to do everything, every activity. If it sounded interesting, I would join in. If not, I didn't. Women are so pleasant here that they don't get hurt if you decline.
3rd I frequently took time to have a coffee and people-watch. Went to Starbucks and just sat and watched couples, other women, sports groups and watched their interactions. Very informative and calming. Day by day I began to feel more comfortable with my new role. I see other women just like me and they are happy and satisfied.

I, too, thought I would need to seek professional help, but NO, I actually found my "place" rather easily. It was not nearly as painful as I had conjured-up in my head. I actually have learned to not sweat the small stuff.....if it doesn't get done today - there is tomorrow. That is truly an "about-face" from my previous life. And it FEELS GREAT and I feel HEALTHY.

Good luck to you as you explore this next part of your life and find the things that make you happy.

[Lauren Sweeny]

I believe that we women need to join together to help each other handle the hurdles life throws ( and sometimes leaks out ) . Gracie and I are alike in our understanding of emotions and life path difficulties. Please find time to meet new friends . Just talking, sitting learning to laugh again helps tremendously. Let this be your first step. Leaving the comfort of friends, family, and routine is VERY discombobulating ! I imagine it as changing from our old comfy broke in slippers to new shoes. It takes time to get the feel and make them your own.
Please PM me ,I am a chocolate addict, reader ,traveler ,animal lover and sensitive ( politically correct way of saying therapy works).

[jdsl1998]

Thank you ALL. Since I last wrote, I have had SO, SO many P.M.'s that gave me stories of going though the same thing. Also, I was sent so much encouragement. Due to your posts, I stopped by our new church and signed up to help in Operation Homebound beginning on Monday. The last thing the lady who runs it said to me was, "this will feed your soul", just want I need!! So, that is a start. I have doctors and therapist names that have been sent to me. That is my next step. I just want you all to know that you have touched my heart. That this is the best therapy I have had since it began. I can see a light at the end of this tunnel and will grab each rung of the ladder to get to that light. Thank you all....I'll keep you posted!!
P.S. I know I'm getting better, if only for brief moments. I got a chuckle out of the "Grand Avenue" cartoon on today's funny page....Chuckling is good!

[2BNTV]

Laughter is the best medicine!!!!

[kittygilchrist]

Thank you ALL. Since I last wrote, I have had SO, SO many P.M.'s that gave me stories of going though the same thing. Also, I was sent so much encouragement. Due to your posts, I stopped by our new church and signed up to help in Operation Homebound beginning on Monday. The last thing the lady who runs it said to me was, "this will feed your soul", just want I need!! So, that is a start. I have doctors and therapist names that have been sent to me. That is my next step. I just want you all to know that you have touched my heart. That this is the best therapy I have had since it began. I can see a light at the end of this tunnel and will grab each rung of the ladder to get to that light. Thank you all....I'll keep you posted!!
P.S. I know I'm getting better, if only for brief moments. I got a chuckle out of the "Grand Avenue" cartoon on today's funny page....Chuckling is good!

thank you for the humility to admit having a need. What is it with us that we always want to be too strong to need anything or anybody or any help. It's pathological to isolate, keep the chin up, and deny our feelings.

You get the GENUINE PERSON AWARD..:BigApplause: