Concert etiquette gone wrong!!!!!!

[beady]

We went to a Jazz Concert tonight at the Savannah Center ,an evening of good music, by some talented musicians, a really enjoyable event,.........EXCEPT.......

During the entire concert people were leaving. Not between selections.... right in the middle of them. We were sitting in the second row of the balcony and clomp,clomp ,clomp down they came. The "leavings" continued till almost the end of the concert,when, with 2 more musical pieces left on the program, literally a whole section of people left the room. I was so annoyed, and very embarassed.

I think this is just plain......RUDE & INCONSIDERATE :cus:

If you are not enjoying the venue , at least have the courtesy to wait to leave between selection, acts, or intermission........surely not during the performance.

We all here in TV know that age has it's privledges for sure , but one of them is not the right to be rude and inconsiderate.

[JohnnyM]

beady why would anyone go to a Jazz Concert if they did not enjoy Jazz music. Seems ignorant to me. I don't think I would attend something I feel I would not enjoy. :dontknow: Oh well!

[The Great Fumar]

BEADY
You are right on the money, The last show I went to at Savanna had the same thing happen .....apparently you don't have to be a genius to live in the villages...........
disgusted fumar

[Talk Host]

I think I may have posted previously that the night of the Irish Sopranos concert a large segment of the audience thought the program was over at the conclusion of one particular set of songs and got up to make a run for the doors. The somewhat embarrassed entertainers said, "the show isn't over." Do you know that these people did not sit back down, they continued to stand so that they had a head start when the show was really over. Beady is right, it is RUDE and EMBARRASSING. But, you know what, it's not going to change.

[chuckster]

You're right Jan, have been to many concerts and events at the Savannah Center and the same happens each time, an early race for the exits. My better half and I find it disgusting and have come close to saying something to the "early clompers" but thought better of it. Would hope they would read this forum and be embarassed for their actions.

What's the big rush to leave folks? RELAX!!!!!

[villages07]

Chuck,

I agree....it takes all of 10 minutes to clear the parking lot. It's not like trying to leave a 80,000 seat football stadium. What's the hurry????

[Boomer]

Are these the same people who seem to sit behind us wherever we go? -- a concert, a play, the movies, and yes, even The Church on the Square -- and talk and talk and talk throughout the performance, stopping only long enough to concentrate on unwrapping their mints or cough drops which are always wrapped in the noisiest cellophane ever.

Sometimes these people talk to each other. Sometimes they just do a running commentary, kind of a stream of consciousness thing like "That's funny." or "Wait 'til you see this." --or whatever else pops into their heads.

I give them my very best "look" but these types are oblivious.

[beady]

Jan: You know what you are right it's not going to change.

How very depressing ,that we are going to have to put up with that type of :edit: behavior.

[Taltarzac]

Are these the same people who seem to sit behind us wherever we go? -- a concert, a play, the movies, and yes, even The Church on the Square? -- and talk and talk and talk throughout the performance, stopping only long enough to concentrate on unwrapping their mints or cough drops which are always wrapped in the noisiest cellophane ever.

Sometimes these people talk to each other. Sometimes they just do a running commentary, kind of a stream of consciousness thing like "That's funny." or "Wait 'til you see this." --or whatever else pops into their heads.

I give them my very best "look" but these types are oblivious.


:agree:

I seem to find myself sitting near these same people Boomer BeBack. I look for some of the same couples who do this at practically every movie in Villages' theaters. I do not mind it that much when it is a lousy or boring movie like Semi-Pro but it is irritating when you really want to see what is going on with the show.

Unfortunately, though, I have found these talkers at every movie theater venue I have been at from Oldsmar, FL to the Scottsdale, AZ area to Minneapolis, MN to Schaumburg, IL to Reno, NV to Petaluma, CA. Once in a while they do have something really interesting to say like when the guy behind me while I was watching the Rene Russo/Morgan Freeman/Dustin Hoffman picture Outbreak on 3/12/95 at the Petaluma Cinemas asked his companion if he had noticed the 611 through 614 or so sequence with special attention going to#613. I have been rather obsessive about noticing numbers like 6 1 3 and 2 2 4 in movies since that March of 1995.

You do hear some interesting things at the movies as well as see them. Sometimes I go to movies to see what other people notice in them more than for the movie. Often went to the show in Palm Harbor and Oldsmar (near Palm Harbor) to notice what the audience saw on the screen and if they said anything.

[nanci2539]

Would it be helpful it it was announced at the beginning of the concert or show that people wait for intermission if they need to get up.

We recently went to see Jersey Boys in downtown Chicago and they did just that. An announcement came over the intercom asking folks not to get up and use the exit doors during the performance. And of course, they added to refrain from talking, shut off cell phones, etc. It didn't appear that people were offended or put off by such an annnouncement.

Maybe a letter to management suggesting this is in order

[Just Susan]

Hmmm, my sister and I were talking about this topic the other day. She had just returned from visiting our mother who lives in a retirement community in Fort Myers. She was commenting on the fact that our mother and father did a lot of hurry up and wait.

An example...they went to a dinner show. The show started at 8:00pm, the dinner began its service at 6:00pm until 7:30pm...they arrived at 4:30pm to get a good parking spot. They got one of the last good spots, as many others had already arrived for the same reason. Then they all waited. Many stayed in their cars...just sitting (this was not a tail-gate experience). They stood to leave at the last word out of the actors mouths and did so to avoid "the parking lot crush".

I guess I don't understand. If you have the time to wait endlessly on one end of an event...why not a little wait on the other end. :dontknow:

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[Taltarzac]

Hmmm, my sister and I were talking about this topic the other day. She had just returned from visiting our mother who lives in a retirement community in Fort Myers. She was commenting on the fact that our mother and father did a lot of hurry up and wait.

An example...they went to a dinner show. The show started at 8:00pm, the dinner began its service at 6:00pm until 7:30pm...they arrived at 4:30pm to get a good parking spot. They got one of the last good spots, as many others had already arrived for the same reason. Then they all waited. Many stayed in their cars...just sitting (this was not a tail-gate experience). They stood to leave at the last word out of the actors mouths and did so to avoid "the parking lot crush".

I guess I don't understand. If you have the time to wait endlessly on one end of an event...why not a little wait on the other end. :dontknow:

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Maybe, it is past their usual bed time? :joke:

[Just Susan]

Would a nap help?
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[Talk Host]

Would it be helpful it it was announced at the beginning of the concert or show that people wait for intermission if they need to get up.


Maybe a letter to management suggesting this is in order


An announcement (nay a plea) is made prior to each show for people to wait until it is over before stampeding toward the door. Alas....to no avail.

[Taltarzac]

An announcement (nay a plea) is made prior to each show for people to wait until it is over before stampeding toward the door. Alas....to no avail.


When I went to plays in San Francisco (A.C.T.) and Minneapolis (the Guthrie) they would often prevent people from coming into the play once it had started. The usher would stop them. Maybe, that is what some events in TV need volunteer ushers who would control traffic? Had no idea what kind of teeth though the ushers at these various plays could use to enforce the theater's rules? Take away season tickets or points or something?

[Rokinronda]

I'll admit I have on more than one occaision turned to the people behind me and said SSHHHHHHHHH!!!! >:( I also agree it is rude and disrespectful to leave during a performance! An announcement may be helpful.

[Just Susan]

Does anyone have a clue as to the mentality behind these actions? Is it part of the aging process or were these people always selfish and rude?

I am thinking of my example above, my mother and stepdad are neither rude, nor are they selfish...far from it. My stepdad does not walk well. Mom needs to walk with him, therefore they need to park close to the door. It is also disconcerting for him to have to dodge traffic after the event is over.

Talking, I don't know, as people mature do they no longer have a responsibility to behave politely and take others into consideration?

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[Muncle]

They only way you can stop these people coming late and leaving early is to embarrass them over and over. As a child, we had a pastor (sorry, I have no videos of him going on a racial or social tirade) who would, if possible, pause saying mass and direct latecomers to seats, normally in the front of the church. At the end, he would often again stop normal service and ask those "sneaking" out right after communion if they had a date or maybe it was something he had said. No one wanted Monsignor Nichols to notice them again.

An aside, the man used to roll a tube of old spice in his hands before mass. As an altar body, I thought it strange at first, but later realized it made some sense.

[Hancle704]

My post about applauding at Church on The Square also applies here.

[Boomer]

Wow! This one is pushing the hot button. We are talking about the kinds of things that have driven me to the brink of madness more than once.

The talking in movies has been going on for years. It is probably the fault of television entertaining people in their very own homes.

The first time I remember it happening to me was so long ago that the movie was The Godfather. There was a middle-aged man behind us and I think he was on a date. Well, he had read The Godfather and wanted to impress the woman with his literary knowledge. He kept narrating. It was kind of like instant replay -- only up front. Frankly, I wanted to turn around and just slap him silly. I will never forget when he snorted, "Look out! Here comes the horse's head!" I sure hope the poor woman slapped him silly later.

Mr. B and I went to a matinee not too long ago where we had the theater to ourselves. --for awhile. Then a group of rowdy teenagers came in. I told Mr. B that if they did not settle down right away that we two "old people" would just start passionately "making out" and then they would surely run screaming from the theater and leave us alone. I must have been sending out an aura or something because actually the kids settled down right away so we never did get to make out.

Maybe movie theaters should run a "Manners Matinee" --No Dolts Allowed.

[Hancle704]

These same people go to my Church and their rude behavior is consistent, they head for the door during Communion.

[Just Susan]

You know BBB I think you may be on to something with your comment about Television. Perhaps people are so used to talking during TV watching, that they assume it's okay to talk at public performances.
Talking by people, when I am trying to listen to a movie, a play, a speech, or trying to learn something from someone teaching a class is definitely a pet peeve of mine.
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P.S. I would love to have been a fly on the wall, to watch the reaction of the teens had they not settled down. How funny that would have been.

[rpribu]

At the start of every performance at the Savannah Center they announce not to leave until the house lights are on for your safety. I also have attended performances that did not meet my expectations. I have never left during a performance because I think it is rude. I will admit during these performance the seat becomes very uncomfortable. Leaving early is not only a Village thing. We have season passes to Silver Springs, mostly to attend the concerts.
This is a outdoor venue and you bring your own seating. People arrive starting at 9:00am for the concert that begins at 3:00pm, they setup their chairs and then leave to eat or enjoy the attractions of the park. I must admit I am guessing about the 9:00am set up time because we arrive at 10:00am and several hundred chairs are set up. Well the concert starts at 3:00pm and usually lasts about a hour or more. Well at 3:45 people pull up their chairs and head for the exit, not caring about the entertainer nor the audience. This happens at every show. Anne Murray saw this and made a comment about missing the early dinner special she proceeded to perform for another 35 minutes. I do have a complaint about the performers who tease the crowd by leaving the stage then return to perform some more. When a performer says good bye I assume the show is over so I pick up my chair and start packing it, well to set the chair back up is a little time consuming so I just continue to leave. You must understand 80% of the crowd is also packing up. My theory is if you are willing to arrive 6hrs before show time why not wait and enjoy the last 15 minutes. Waiting for the parking to clear is worth seeing the last minutes of most shows. At this stage of our lives getting out of the parking lot early only means early to bed.

[Taltarzac]

Wow! This one is pushing the hot button. We are talking about the kinds of things that have driven me to the brink of madness more than once.

The talking in movies has been going on for years. It is probably the fault of television entertaining people in their very own homes.

The first time I remember it happening to me was so long ago that the movie was The Godfather. There was a middle-aged man behind us and I think he was on a date. Well, he had read The Godfather and wanted to impress the woman with his literary knowledge. He kept narrating. It was kind of like instant replay -- only up front. Frankly, I wanted to turn around and just slap him silly. I will never forget when he snorted, "Look out! Here comes the horse's head!" I sure hope the poor woman slapped him silly later.

Mr. B and I went to a matinee not too long ago where we had the theater to ourselves. --for awhile. Then a group of rowdy teenagers came in. I told Mr. B that if they did not settle down right away that we two "old people" would just start passionately "making out" and then they would surely run screaming from the theater and leave us alone. I must have been sending out an aura or something because actually the kids settled down right away so we never did get to make out.

Maybe movie theaters should run a "Manners Matinee" --No Dolts Allowed.


I usually avoid the weekend and holiday showings of movies in TV just so that I do not have any more "teen" experiences. I had enough of those in high school to last my lifetime.

That's really an amusing tactic BBB of making out in the theater and giving some of the teens a taste of their own medicine.

I did see The Godfather in the theater too but was only around 13 at the time. Hope I was not one of those teens kicking the seats and the like. :joke: ;D

[floydfan]

I am sitting here laughing my butt off at some of the remarks made in this thread. Here is a suggestion for the people obsessed with "a good parking spot" take your car the day before and get the good spot, have your spouse follow you in the golf cart. Leave the car there overnight and get your neighbor to drop you off the next day at the correct time.

[Frangyomory]

Just like Mass on Sunday. Before the Communion is completed, the crowd heads for the door. At St. Timothy, over one of the doors a sign reads REMEMBER, JUDAS WAS THE FIRST TO LEAVE THE LAST SUPPER!!!!

People are obasessed wth traffic, they simply HAVE to beat it. ???

[Sidney Lanier]

These people are just plain rude, and even if this were pointed out to them in some way or other, they will either ignore it or find some way to justify it. Does anything think people like this would actually read a thread like this on TOTV, recognize themselves, and modify their behavior? Do pigs have wings?...

[beady]

I cannot for the life of me understand the reasoning behind these people leaving concerts early to beat the traffic. We are not attending an event at a huge venue. It takes all of 5 minutes at the most to clear the parking lot. What's the hurry, we have the rest of our lives to enjoy this place. If you don't like the concert,play etc, at least have the courtesy to leave between acts, selections etc.

[Boomer]

I am starting to wonder if this leaving early from concerts, etc. thing is something that is deeply programmed into some of us for some primitive reason. It's the only thing that I can come up with because it makes absolutely no sense at all in a place like TV. Where is everybody going anyway?

I have read about things that we do as humans that make sense only if explained by our primitive wiring which is still somewhat in place.

For instance, I know I am primitive because if given a choice of a booth or a table in a restaurant, I always pick the booth. I used to think that was because conversation could be better in a booth. But then I read that it is because we are still programmed like cave people who had to rush to cover with their food that was so hard to come by, get their backs against the cave wall, and gobble it all down before another caveman tried to take it. So it's not the scintillating conversation that I want. I'm just trying to protect my cheeseburger. Who knew?

But what primitive force is driving these Neanderthals to leave the concerts early? :dontknow:

[chuckster]

"5 Guys Named Moe" on Monday was a terrific show, enjoyed the entire production and effort of the performers. As stated here, the "exit crashers" started before the finish of a fabulous evenning, interrupting the applause and appreciation of those of us that stayed put to thank the performers. The rude morons will never learn will they? >:( Noticed several wheel chair patrons that were not among the "door crashers". This eliminates one phoney reason for early departures. ::) Later held the door for those that were were "truly in need of help". :)

[captain1202]

I had a similar experience in Maine a few years ago. We were at a jazz concert at the Rockport Opera House featuring a very well known musician's group. The music was great! At intermission fully HALF the audience got up and left. (At least it was at intermission)

BUT, if you're not interested in the presentation being given....why the H... are you there in the first place. I just don't get it! I don't recall this happening years ago. It must be something in our water. Could it be the flouride?